Self Love For Dummies

Self Love For Dummies

Seven steps to self love!
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Everyone talks about this thing called "self love." You hear things like 'you need to love yourself first,' 'taking time for yourself is so important,' and 'don't forget about self care.' But that is all easier said than done. Of course we all want to treat our minds and bodies right, but what if you don't know how? So here is a beginner's guide to self love:


1. Do something you love every day!

Sometimes when we are stressed or overwhelmed we think we don't have time to watch that funny video or spend time with a friend. But there is always time for mental breaks! So have a 10 minute dance party in your room, play your favorite video game, bake cookies with your roommate, do a full face of make up just for fun, go on a run, go out to eat, take a trip to a pet store-if you love it, just do it! You wont regret it and you'll thank yourself later!

2. Eat a whole pizza yourself, but don't forget about fruits and veggies!

Everyone knows food can make you feel better. So yes, of course you should eat food you love! But be sure to make room for the foods that are good for your body, too! Self love should make you feel good mentally and physically!

3. Sleep!

I'd say more, but that's pretty self explanatory.

4. Surround yourself with supportive people!

Do your friends make you feel like a burden, make everything a competition, make you insecure, or distract you from things that are important to you? DROP THEM! They are not helping you grow as a person and they do not have your best interest in mind. Your friends should lift you up, cheer you on, help you when needed, and want to see you happy and successful. Having better friends will change a lot, I promise!

5. TREAT YO SELF!

Parks and Rec fan or not, everyone has heard this! And it's pretty easy to do. Find something you wouldn't normally splurge and freakin' splurge! Buy that make up palette, pick out a new outfit, get those new shoes, go to Target and go wild, get those floor seats to a game, and enjoy! Don't go crazy and break the bank, but give yourself the treat you deserve from time to time!


6. Practice time management!

Binge watching 7 episodes straight on Netflix is definitely a form of self love. But choosing to watch Netflix instead of doing your homework, cleaning your room, folding laundry, studying, or working will only make you mad at yourself later on. Try to be as productive as possible for at least a couple of hours and then reward yourself with some episodes, a movie, or a much needed social media break. You'll make your To-Do list smaller and get some self love in there as well!

7. BOGO!

Buy one, get one! But I'm not talking about shopping. I feel that one of the most important parts of self love is truly loving who you are. So whenever you criticize yourself, pick out your flaws, point out your mistakes, and let your insecurities eat you alive-give yourself a compliment too(or instead!) Being confident in yourself and loving yourself are not easy things to do. So instead of trying to wipe out the negative thoughts completely, try adding in some positive ones here and there and see where that takes you!

No one knows how to love you better than yourself! I encourage you all to at least do one of the items on this list and see how your life changes. Treat your mind and body right and everything else will follow! Good luck!

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An Open Letter To The Judgmental People In My Hometown

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value.
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Dear judgemental, simple minded people from my hometown,

I am sorry that I have never met your level of perfection.

Coming from a small town, everyone settles to the norm of the people around them. Unlike you all, I have always been a little bit different.

I've never understood why everyone always seems to feel the need to talk down to the next person. People love to gossip about a situation as long as the situation has nothing to do with them. For every move I made, someone was always there to bring out the negativity in the situation. You all are always sweeping around somebody else's doorstep when I know your doorstep is not clean. Maybe it is time to buy a new broom. I know that I cannot please everybody and that I will also not be liked by everybody. However, I deserve respect just as the next person.

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I hope for the sake of the future generations of our small town, you all can learn to be more accepting to change.

I hope that no one judges your children like some of you all have judged me. I hope that the people that you love and care about are welcomed and accepted for who they are.

If we put as much time into being better people or helping others like you put into judging others, the world would be a much better place.

Imperfections are what gives a diamond its value. Pebbles are perfectly round. I'd much rather be a diamond, one in a million, than a pebble that fits in.

Sincerely,

The one whose every move you criticize

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Go Ahead, Push Me To The Dirt And Spit On Me — Then Watch Me Grow

What happens when you put a seed in the dirt and water it? It grows.

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People are mean. The world is cruel. People are going to push you to the dirt and spit on you. Those are pretty harsh words, I know, but they're honest.

There are selfish people who don't care about you and won't care about you, not unless you are doing something for them. The mentality should be, "I help you, you help me," not "I help you, I help you."

People will use you, abuse you and confuse you.

That's right. They'll confuse you. They'll make you feel like you've done everything wrong when it's the furthest thing from the truth.

Sometimes, people pretend that you're the bad guy so that they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you.

Eventually, the people who have pushed you to the dirt and spit on you will realize that they've done something wrong. Unfortunately, people aren't always willing to accept that they can be the bad guys, too.

When you put a seed in the dirt and water it, it will grow. It can be the same for people who have been pushed to the dirt and spit on.

It may seem like there's no way you can get up and dust yourself off. You may look at the situation and believe it has stunted your growth as a person. You can grow from the circumstances, but only if you choose to.

It's tempting to pull the person that pushed you down to the dirt so that you're on the same ground, but doing this doesn't create an equal ground.

"The minute you think you have the right to belittle others because you think you're better than them is the same minute you've proven you're worse." – Joanne Crisner Alcayaga

People are quick to point out what is wrong with a situation, but they're slow to point out what's right. It's easier to call someone out when they've done something wrong than to compliment them for doing something right.

Grow from the situation and help others grow alongside you.

Be an example. Show kindness to unkind people, forgive those that seem unforgivable and reflect on who you are instead of who hurt you. Don't show fake kindness or forgiveness. Show your genuine self.

It'll test your character when you treat someone you don't have to be nice to with respect.

Will you wither or bloom? People won't remember how pretty or talented you are. You can be the most beautiful rose with the sweetest fragrance, but that doesn't matter if your thorns always stab someone.

People remember how you make them feel.

Don't let yourself grow into a flower that looks beautiful but smells awful or is covered in thorns. I'm not saying you must be a beautiful rose — even dandelions can be beautiful.

When a child brings a bouquet of "pretty" dandelion flowers to you, you're not going to think of them as obnoxious weeds. You probably won't see the same beauty that the child sees, but you'll see something even more exquisite. You'll see the happiness in that moment when the child wants to share something beautiful with you.

Go ahead and push me to the dirt and spit on me, then watch me grow. Watch me grow from the situation, and hopefully, you'll be inspired to grow alongside me.

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