Self Love For Dummies

Self Love For Dummies

Seven steps to self love!

Everyone talks about this thing called "self love." You hear things like 'you need to love yourself first,' 'taking time for yourself is so important,' and 'don't forget about self care.' But that is all easier said than done. Of course we all want to treat our minds and bodies right, but what if you don't know how? So here is a beginner's guide to self love:

1. Do something you love every day!

Sometimes when we are stressed or overwhelmed we think we don't have time to watch that funny video or spend time with a friend. But there is always time for mental breaks! So have a 10 minute dance party in your room, play your favorite video game, bake cookies with your roommate, do a full face of make up just for fun, go on a run, go out to eat, take a trip to a pet store-if you love it, just do it! You wont regret it and you'll thank yourself later!

2. Eat a whole pizza yourself, but don't forget about fruits and veggies!

Everyone knows food can make you feel better. So yes, of course you should eat food you love! But be sure to make room for the foods that are good for your body, too! Self love should make you feel good mentally and physically!

3. Sleep!

I'd say more, but that's pretty self explanatory.

4. Surround yourself with supportive people!

Do your friends make you feel like a burden, make everything a competition, make you insecure, or distract you from things that are important to you? DROP THEM! They are not helping you grow as a person and they do not have your best interest in mind. Your friends should lift you up, cheer you on, help you when needed, and want to see you happy and successful. Having better friends will change a lot, I promise!


Parks and Rec fan or not, everyone has heard this! And it's pretty easy to do. Find something you wouldn't normally splurge and freakin' splurge! Buy that make up palette, pick out a new outfit, get those new shoes, go to Target and go wild, get those floor seats to a game, and enjoy! Don't go crazy and break the bank, but give yourself the treat you deserve from time to time!

6. Practice time management!

Binge watching 7 episodes straight on Netflix is definitely a form of self love. But choosing to watch Netflix instead of doing your homework, cleaning your room, folding laundry, studying, or working will only make you mad at yourself later on. Try to be as productive as possible for at least a couple of hours and then reward yourself with some episodes, a movie, or a much needed social media break. You'll make your To-Do list smaller and get some self love in there as well!

7. BOGO!

Buy one, get one! But I'm not talking about shopping. I feel that one of the most important parts of self love is truly loving who you are. So whenever you criticize yourself, pick out your flaws, point out your mistakes, and let your insecurities eat you alive-give yourself a compliment too(or instead!) Being confident in yourself and loving yourself are not easy things to do. So instead of trying to wipe out the negative thoughts completely, try adding in some positive ones here and there and see where that takes you!

No one knows how to love you better than yourself! I encourage you all to at least do one of the items on this list and see how your life changes. Treat your mind and body right and everything else will follow! Good luck!

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13 Gross Things Girls Do That Boys Don't Know About

From a girl, about girls.

There's always talk about how gross boys are all the time, it's now time to talk about how gross maybe even how much more disgusting girls can be. It may not even be disgusting, but just weird, but we are girls. What can we say?

1. Gorilla legs.

It's not that we don't want to...okay, that was a lie. Every girl can agree that they only shave during bathing suit season when you're wearing a dress, or when you're gonna get it on. Basically, If she shaves her legs you're special.

2. When did I last wash this bra again?

We wear the same exact bra, for days, and weeks, and who knows for how long.

3. It's not just the bra's, it's the pants too.

We wear jeans and leggings like twenty times before we think about washing them.

4. We don't wash our hair every day.

Because unwashed hair is the best styling hair. Also because looking good takes too much work.

5. We are always picking at our faces, especially pimples.

As soon as we walk by a mirror, its a must. Car mirrors are awesome to pop those suckers and pluck rampant eyebrow hairs. We pop pimples like its our job.

6. We will live in your clothes.

If you somehow let your significant other or friend wear your sweatshirt you're never getting it back... and she's never taking it off. Girls will wear that sh*t until your scent is gone because we love it.

7. We poop.

Believe it or not... it happens to us too. Women don't make it as much as a show as boys do. We hide it from you and will hold it until you're not around. And you've probably received a lot of selfies on the toilet.

8. The dreaded monthly gift.

Probably the most disgusting thing to ever happen to the human body. But everyone knows about menstruating, but most guys don't understand the other things that come along with it, like the cramps that bring period farts and the nasty bowel movements and blood clots.

9. Finding hair from our head in our butt cheeks.

Yeah, it's a thing. Your head hair crawls it's way down there occasionally.

10. We smell ourselves a lot.

We are super conscious about how we smell...especially down there.

11. We let it fly.

We will hold in our farts from you, but as soon as we are alone... that's a different story. You better hope we don't get too comfortable around you too quick.

12. Sometimes we have to improvise.

Sometimes mother nature likes to come when we aren't ready, or prepared with the supplies. There are numerous occasions where we start bleeding and have to create this bundle of toilet paper and just shove it down there.

13. Looking at our panties and trying to figure out what came out.

Sometimes you just don't know for sure.

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Being Unapologetically Me Freed Myself From The Words 'I'm Sorry'

I don't have to be sorry and insecure for being who I am.

By nature, many of us are constantly saying and thinking "I'm sorry" for things we say and do throughout our daily lives. Many of us are living behind a wall of insecurities and apologetic living as an identity that doesn't represent us for who we really are because we're insecure with ourselves. "Unapologetic living" is powerful and freeing and so many of us are imprisoned to our insecurities and the words "I'm sorry."

Personally, I used to find myself constantly unsure and insecure of the things I'm doing and saying, chronically worrisome about what others were thinking of who I was. This created many problems within my own mind and within my relationships with friends and new people all the time. Recently, I was approached by someone who is supposed to be an "authority" figure in my life and I was told it wasn't their problem we had a problem, it was mine.

This "problem" they were talking about has bothered me relentlessly for almost a year and I had let it because I was so extremely worried about what this person thought of me, what I did and said, and how they perceived me compared to my other friends. I constantly was sorry, whether externally or internally, for how I acted and what I said because of my insecurity in who I was.

This person even approached my friends and told them "It's not my fault she's insecure" and they would be right, it isn't their fault I'm insecure in myself. But, my insecurities can't take all the blame for how I was treated by this person. And I think that is the most important thing I learned from this confrontation and year of struggling.

I don't have to be sorry and insecure for being who I am.

And even more so, I can't change how someone treats me but just because someone doesn't treat me the same as someone else doesn't mean my worth decreases or that I am inferior to that other person. I struggle with insecurity, a lot. But, hearing this person talk about my insecurities with myself in a way in which they acted like they understood really irked me and made me realize my insecurities are not and never again will be someone's power against me.

From that conversation on, I made it a point to not let my insecurities and apologies for being who I am be a major influencer in my life and my relationships with people. I found that living in constant fear and a space of inferiority of other people and their perceptions of me created an insane amount of stress on myself that was so unnecessary.

I challenge everyone, if any of this sounds familiar in any way, to free yourself from these insecurities and apologetic living and identity we live behind. Start living unapologetically and love every bit of yourself, become who you've always wanted to be and don't apologize once for it.

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