I am not a princess. Only to my parents.

Nowadays, we see all over Twitter those tweets about guys working hard to be spoil their girlfriends, or treat them like their "'princesses." These type of relationships are deemed to be #relationshipgoals. One question. How?

While it is inspirational to find a partner who treats you well, there is now a huge pressure to find someone who works insanely hard solely to spoil and take care of their girlfriend. I can take care of myself, thank you. This paints the girl as helpless without her man. The girl will depend mostly on their boyfriend's aid, financially and otherwise. The boyfriend makes sure that his girl is taken care of, and if not, he will hear about it.

But what about him? What happens when he needs help, or when he goes through financial struggles? Not only will he disappoint his girl, but he will mostly disappoint himself. A young man should not have to feel that kind of disappointment and pain. There is no way I am letting my partner struggle in order to make me happy. My parents did not raise me as a woman who needs everything handed to her. They made sure I know and understand what hard work means.

I understand how hard some guys work to treat their girlfriends like princesses- and they aren't even married yet! That kind of stress, and misery is not "relationship goals". It's a recipe for disaster; because once the guy decides to leave his girl, she will feel desperate and useless. This relationship will also give control to the men, because they understand the situation of the girl if they were to split. Also, this relationship acts like a pre-marriage; in a marriage, the husband is mostly the bank of the family- but you're not married, just merely dating. Your boyfriend should not be your bank. Maybe your dad or mom can spare you something.

I completely understand why men want to find themselves their very own "princess." They want to feel needed, and have their relationship be a trophy of their hard work. But a relationship involves two people, meaning that women should also be working hard to spoil their boyfriend.

I am not a princess. Don't expect me to ask you for money to do my nails or to fix my car. I'm a big girl; I can handle that on my own.

Now, I am not discrediting those couples where the woman might really needed to be taken care of due to a struggle. I get that, and I hope you stay strong. But, to those who live off of their man's paycheck while living comfortably at their parents' or even their own house, you need to get up and help your man too.

Future husband, you better get used to me working hard for the both of us. And I expect the same from you too. Don't worry, you can and have to treat me right. But I will spoil you too.