I'm a college girl, 21, in a committed relationship of over a year, and I'm saving sex for marriage. I'm also Christian. But I don't feel the need to include that in my first sentence because my faith isn't the only reason I'm saving sex for marriage. There's a lot more to the sanctity and weight of sex than just "what the Bible teaches" or what my priest or pastor says. There's actual science behind it. It's the science that backs up the emptiness and hurt girls feel after the man they first have sex with leaves them. It's called Oxytocin.
Oxytocin is a chemical in a girl's brain that is released in large amounts when she has sex, gives birth, and breastfeeds her child.
This chemical emotionally connects her to the other person for the rest of her life. It's literally known as the "love hormone." The hormone doesn't know whether or not it's a dating fling or a marital promise, it's released either way with the same weight and strength and it's what causes girls to fall in love with their partner. So while Oxytocin is meant to help you bond with the love of your life, it's also the reason so many girls feel so miserable after a short-term relationship ends.
The other part of this equation is that men don't release Oxytocin like women during sex. They primarily release dopamine, the "pleasure hormone." Their body isn't reacting to sex the same way ours does, ESPECIALLY if it's just some college relationship. There are literally physical and emotional things that happen to our bodies during sex that no one ever talks about. It's not just a casual recreational "feels good" thing you do cause everyone else is.
Oxytocin is being released during sex outside of marriage and forming this bond with someone who we have no committed life with. There's no promise of a future with them, while our body is hormonally bonding us to them for life. How scary. Sex before marriage can, and IS destroying self-worth, self-confidence, and overall self-happiness. I see it all over college campuses, in my friends and in the hurt, depression, and anxiety girls all around me struggle with. If the Bible can't convince you to save sex for marriage, after you create a covenant with someone on that altar, maybe science will.
