Every time something ends with a person we truly liked we tend to say “it was the right person just the wrong time.” However, after being heart broken countless times and being up all night overthinking the situations this is what I continue to wonder about. Was it the right person at the wrong time or are the people we meet at the wrong time actually just the wrong people?

After a break-up, we always tend to blame ourselves. We make up excuses for the other person because we thought that they were perfect for us. But they weren’t perfect. If they were they would still be with you. They wouldn’t have broken up with you, stopped responding, or just straight up ghosted you if they were the right person for you. The right person won’t leave, but when you have tunnel vision for the wrong person, in your eyes they do no wrong. That is why they weren’t the right person at the wrong time they were actually just the wrong person.

They say that if a person isn’t right for you and you keep trying to keep them in your life, God will make them hurt you to the point that you finally drop them. They may hurt you very much, but the pain is only temporary just like that person was in your life. The person who is truly right for you won’t leave and will not hurt you. They will be the person to bring you up and make you feel a spark that you have never felt before. It won’t matter what the time is or the circumstances they will want to be with you through it all.

That is why all the pain and the heartbreak will be worth it when you finally find the right person. The person who doesn’t give excuses, the person who will answer you back, the person who will show you off to the world and the person who will want to spend the rest of their life with you. Your perfect person will find you. They will always find you it just might take some time.

So the next time something ends, just remember that it wasn’t you who was wrong, they were.