A Response To 'Stop Whoring Out Your Undiagnosed Mental Illness'

A Response To 'Stop Whoring Out Your Undiagnosed Mental Illness'

How about YOU stop being the reason people are afraid to talk about their struggles?
19
views

Miss Hannah,

I just recently read your article, 'Stop Whoring Out Your Undiagnosed Mental Illness' and I found myself feeling, frustrated.

First off,

How do you know the people saying these things haven't seen a doctor and gotten a "proper diagnosis"?

If people choose to use their Facebook as their outlet to talk about a particularly anxiety filled day they've had, then let them. You claim they've made lives harder, but really, you're the one making lives harder. You are the reason there is such a stigma attached to mental illness. No one is wearing it as a badge of honor. Maybe they're just finally at a point where they can openly talk about the battle they're fighting within... every.. single.. day..

If it bothers you so much, don't read it!

You're making lives harder by claiming people are "whoring out their mental illness".

Your condescending article hit viral status. The more times your article is shared, those truly suffering mentally will continue to struggle to share their story. For fear of people like you.

For fear that people will judge them for how they're feeling. Facebook is really an online diary. You can write whatever your heart desires on your page. And guess what, when you're reading someone else's public diary, you're choosing to do so. You don't have to read these posts you claim people are turning mental illness into a, "basic b*tch hashtag".

Who are you to judge the people using their social media or writing as their coping strategy? Or those who write articles on their own experiences and battles they're fighting mentally. I personally wrote my first ever blog post about battling post part-um depression and anxiety. Yes, it was diagnosed. Since that seems to be your only requirement for validating a mental illness.

I wrote the article because it was something I am currently struggling with, and I had finally gotten to the point where I was comfortable talking about it. It's not easy to talk about depression, anxiety or any mental illness for that matter. But I finally reached a point where I was comfortable talking about it. I wanted to do my part and put the some of my story out there for other mom's who may be struggling with the same thing.

Sometimes people just like to know that they're not alone.

Maybe they need a,

"Hey, I've been through what you're going through and I'm here if you ever need an ear to listen!"

Not a,

"Stop whoring out your un-diagnosed mental illness"

Look, it's not easy to talk about feelings in general on social media, because of people like you. People who seek to shut down others to make themselves feel better. So what if someone talks about suffering from anxiety? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to diagnose anxiety.

And good for you if you have the worlds greatest doctors.

For some people? It isn't that easy. It takes multiple different doctors before you find one willing to listen and truly understand you.

Same thing goes with counselors.

The more doctors and counselors you have to go through before you find the right one, the more isolated you begin to feel. You begin to wonder if you're ever going to reach that light at the end of the tunnel.

You begin to wonder if you will be happy again.

Next time you start writing something, stop and think, "am I being the basic b*tch I'm accusing others of being right now?" You were in this article.

You're being that judgemental, basic b*tch mean girl, Regina George wanna-be and telling people they have no right to feel what they feel.

That they're making lives worse for feeling comfortable writing about their struggles. That they're making lives worse for being in-tune enough and comfortable enough with their emotions to talk about it.

It's not them that's the problem, Hannah.

It's you.

So please, stop bullying people. Stop judging. Stop acting like you decide who is, "mentally ill" and who's not.

Lift others up.

Don't be the reason they're too afraid to be honest about their feelings and their struggles.








































































































































Cover Image Credit: The Daily Mind

Popular Right Now

What Everyone With Diabetes Wishes You Knew

I wish people knew that it is a constant battle.
5192
views

I do my best to keep my story positive. I am a positive person day in and day out, but I can’t help but wish that people knew certain things about my disease without me having to teach them or without me having to help them understand. Although I love educating others, it begins to feel as though no one around me wants to hear it.

When I have a few bad days, I want to hide. I want to scream at my body. I want to throw it away. I ask myself, “Why? Why did this happen to me?”

But then I stop and remember that it happened to me because I can handle it and because I was meant to teach others about it.

I wish people could see the battle that I am fighting, some days more than others.

I wish people could see the numbers that follow me around all day.

I wish people could feel a high blood sugar.

I wish people could feel a low blood sugar (hypoglycemics don’t count).

SEE ALSO: 15 Different Reactions You Get When You Have Type One Diabetes

I wish people could see me struggling to solve this disease.

I wish people knew that my diabetes is not someone else’s diabetes.

I wish people knew that Type 1 Diabetes is not Type 2 Diabetes.

I wish people knew that thousands of people are struggling with this disease around the world and some of them don’t have the resources to survive.

I wish people knew how invasive this disease is between the finger pricks, the pump sites, the sensor sites and the syringe holes left in my body.

I wish people knew that I can eat that cookie.

I wish people knew that I can eat two cookies if my heart desires it.

I wish people knew that I am constantly thinking about my blood sugar.

I wish people knew that I can’t go anywhere without a glucometer, insulin, and glucose tablets.

I wish people knew that diabetes can cause a lot of other problems in my body.

I wish people knew that this disease isn’t as easy as it looks. It’s more than just pushing buttons and testing my blood sugar.

I wish people knew that I have to consider every single piece of food that goes into my mouth and how it might affect me later.

I wish people knew that diabetes affects my sleep.

I wish people knew that sometimes I don’t feel like fighting my body.

I wish people knew that certain foods can really really hurt me for a few hours.

I wish people knew that my life is a little different than theirs, but that I wear it well.

I wish friends could understand.

I wish family would try harder to.

I wish people knew that my disease is life-threatening and that it usually never leaves my mind, no matter how often I practice yoga or how often I meditate.

I wish people knew that diabetes is just as much mental as it is physical.

I wish people knew that I’m constantly thinking ahead, when all I want to be thinking about is right now.

SEE ALSO: A Letter To Those Who Think Diabetes Is A Joke

I wish people knew that life is so precious to people with diabetes.

I wish people knew that I didn’t do this to myself.

Cover Image Credit: Erika Szumel

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

Someone Told Me To Lower My Standards And It Changed The Way I See Myself

For better, but also for the worst.

69
views

I've always valued how well I know myself.

I feel like that is directly related to me never being in a serious relationship. There are times when that can be frustrating, but in a way, it's helped me see my self-worth. I'm never forced to see myself through the eyes of someone else. I don't have to worry about pleasing anyone but myself. It's made me more independent than I think I could ever be otherwise, and that's helped me get where I want to be.

There's still a chance that I could meet all my goals if I wasn't on my own, but I haven't gone as far as to figure that out. I'm at a point now where I want everything I involve myself in to have a permanent, or at least lasting, impact on my life. Because I'm not in a place I want to be forever, or even five years from now, I don't want any attachments.

I can't find a partner in a place I have no connections to.

My college town is great for what I need it for, but I'm only in it so I can get what I need to get out. I could waste time experimenting and having "fun," but I don't want to. I'd rather be in a place mentally and physically where I'm ready. Anything else would just be a variable that could play a role in me figuring out my future. I can't risk anything, or anyone, holding me back.

I get a lot of different reactions when people get to know that about me. Some people find that annoying, and others have been jealous of my mindset. It's all about perspective, and I have to see it in hindsight even though I'm in the present. My friends know I have this crazy standard for permanence. They know I'm passionate about other things that affect me more now.

I had never felt pressured to speed up the process or do things I'm morally against. But then I was told to lower my standards of a forever and a future.

It was like I'd never had a shot at that anyway, so I could just give up. It was a way of telling me I'm not good enough. I never doubted that before. I know my needs, and even when there are times when I want love from another person, I know it's just because I'm not giving enough of it to myself.

It made me feel terrible that someone would tell me to lower my standards or try to convince me I don't know what I need. When the truth is, I have everything I need. I'd never expected anyone to adopt this mindset I have. No one really had to understand it either. I had just hoped people would respect my values. I put them in place for a reason.

The reason being, I'm too good for anything temporary.

I don't want to give up parts of myself if there's not a chance at it being forever. As good as a relationship sounds, I know it couldn't last. I would feel like I was wasting my time or that it would hold me back. I know myself better than I could ever know anything. And I know that standards are meant to be high, or else they wouldn't be standards at all.

Related Content

Facebook Comments