Fraternity and Sorority life has had a pretty rough year with regards to PR. There have been scandals that make every Greek cringe, and tragic deaths, injuries, and mishaps in our community. This doesn't take away from the incredible things the Greek community is capable of. For example, my sorority just raised 26,000 dollars for the Alzheimer's Association, and our Panhellenic Community is raising incredible amounts of money to build a school in Nicaragua. We are moving mountains.

All of this being said, we still have a ways to go.

This week marked the third time this semester that I have come across a "Rush Boob" scandal. For the happily unaware, "Rush Boob" is when a woman writes "Rush (enter fraternity name)" on their chest and sends a nude or semi-nude picture to a member of that fraternity. I was complaining about this strange phenomenon to a friend of mine and his immediate response was "Why is that upsetting? Wouldn't you be flattered?"

Here is the thing. I am a 21st century woman and I am firm believer in people doing what they want with their bodies. Just because they aren't the choices I would make gives me no right to judge them. If a person wants to send an intimate picture, that is their prerogative. That is not where my problem lies.

In the most recent SDSU scandal, the fraternity men needed to obtain a picture for their pledge-ship. This is a literal objectification of women, making them an object to be obtained. Additionally, these pictures get distributed among the group. Unless each of these girls give consent to all of the brothers seeing it, I have a problem.

To make matters worse, websites like Total Frat Move (TFM) post these pictures in weekly compilations on the internet. I am sure that both the men sending in and men posting these images have no idea whether or not the women wanted them posted. That is plain disrespectful.

Say the women deserve it. Say they knew the risks when they sent it. Say it's flattering that men want to see them. Say all of these things and continue to perpetuate the culture we have created that allows for the female anatomy to be seen as something to be obtained and distributed without consent, a continued culture that demeans women.

So, no. I am not flattered, and most women I have talked to aren't flattered either. No one, man or woman, likes to objectified, much less for an arbitrary purpose or to gain entrance into an organization. Websites like TFM are only making it worse, and they won't stop until we tell them to.

This is a discussion that will continue until the culture is changed, until everyone in Greek life addresses that women are not to be commodified, to be used as a pledge ritual, or to be used at all. This will be finished when people stop asking "Why aren't you flattered?"