Dating is perhaps one of the most awkward things out there. It’s hard to find a potential partner, because how do you know someone is into you and wants to date you? Sure, there are ways to decode body language, thanks to the many articles out there on the Internet and magazines. Sure, there’s many techniques of flirting to get them into your court. But, what happens if you try that and you’re still finding yourself alone? What are you supposed to do when you do whatever the magazines and the articles tell you and it all fails?
There are many different ways out there to meet a partner. You can go online, whether it’s through dating apps or websites to find a partner, which is something that many people I know use. I’ve heard it makes things a million times less awkward as you both are on there for one sole reason--looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right. But, I’ve had negative experiences with dating sites, and really don’t want to be on there if I don’t have to be. It’s nothing personal to those who are on those sites--it’s just that they are not for me.
Whatever happened to meeting someone in a class or in a coffee shop? Of course, that leads to the question of whether or not they are actually into you, or interested in being your friend. Online dating does have that advantage, I will give it that. But, what happens if that’s not the answer to your match-making needs?
Someone once told me that to find your person in this world, you have to try people on. But, I’ve also met people who are still with their middle school or high school partner, so that doesn’t apply to them.
My theory for a partner is this: Everyone is given their own love story, and it’s different. Some people will get married at 20, while others will get married at 40. Some may never find that person nor partner for them.
However, while fate has one hand in the equation, something else also does. And that is you. Sure, you can sit around and wait for that special person to come around. Or, you can actually try to get out there and meet someone. You can take the scenic route instead of the direct one. You can take a cooking class, join a club on campus, or even try a new restaurant. You may not meet the love of your life, but maybe you’ll meet someone that sparks your interest.
You also have the hand in taking chances. Talk to the person, don’t just look at them. Sure, it may be scary, but it’s the first step to changing your relationship status. The chance may be a simple “hello,” or even asking if you want to get coffee. Fairy tales and movies often neglect to show that there’s more to meeting someone than just bumping into them and fate kicking in. If you want something, then you have to work for it. Take chances, try something new and open your heart to new opportunities. You never know who you will meet when you do.
