Growing up I think it’s fair to say that most girls dream about their wedding day and having the perfect dress and marrying the perfect guy…well, not me. I dreamed of singing in front of 20,000 people, or being a backup dancer for a popular artist, or even creating my fashion line; I even dreamed of saving someone’s life in an emergency surgery. The thought of having a wedding never really occurred to me. Even now, thinking about me getting married one day is kind of humorous to me.

I don’t know what it is about this generation that puts so much stigma around relationships. From Twitter to Instagram, it seems that everything is based around relationships. Why? Live your life. Don’t stress about having someone else in your life to make you happy. If you can’t make yourself happy, how can you make someone else happy and count on them to make you happy.

One thing I really don’t understand is why couples feel the need to communicate 24/7. I’m sorry but constant communication is unhealthy for any relationship. I don’t even text my best friends every day and we still have great friendships! It’s not natural to talk to someone every second of every day. It’s really quite weird. My question is what do you even talk about all day? My texting conversations usually die after like 20 minutes (and most of the time those 20 minutes are the person waiting for me to respond to them) so I don’t understand what people could possibly talk about all day long. If we're dating, you could literally send me a good morning text and say, “have a great day, I’ll talk to you later” and that is perfectly fine with me. I will talk to you later after I get all my work done and finish what I need to for the day and if I feel like there’s something I need to tell you throughout the day, I will and if not, I’ll talk to you later.

Another thing that really annoys me is the overabundance of compliments. Yes, you told me I’m beautiful, we don’t need to talk about it for the next five minutes. Compliments are great; in moderation. I do not look great every day, sometimes I look like a potato and I know you know that and it’s okay to tell me that. I will not be offended by you telling me something I already know. It annoys me when guys feel the need to constantly compliment their girlfriend. STOP IT. You told me once, I’m good to go. Thank you.

I understand that some people's love language involves being very touchy feely; well not this girl. I am not one for the constant touching of my significant other. I actually hate PDA. I will hold your hand in public but that’s about it pal. If we're out in public and you are constantly touching me, I will get so annoyed with you so fast. There is a time and a place for that stuff and it is not in public. If we aren’t in public like just chilling at home watching Netflix; that’s a different story. I just don’t enjoy being touched all the time and constantly having someone’s arm around me.

My love language is more giving gifts or randomly showing up at your house with your favorite candy or food if you aren’t feeling well. I’m not a very romantic individual. On occasion, I do feel romantic and want to go on a date and get a fancy dinner but for the most part; I’m good with mini golf, laser tag, bowling, cliff jumping, or hiking. I love being adventurous and exploring nature and those types of things are fun “dates.” I’m very independent too; if I’m in a relationship it’s because I want you around not because I need you around. I tend to be very laid back when it comes to relationships and that throws a lot of guys off.

I would consider myself an introvert in the sense that I really enjoy my alone time. I have to be by myself for at least two hours a day in my room or I am not a happy camper. It’s something I have to do in order to feel like my day is complete and to really reflect on my day and just listen to music and do what I want to do. When you’re in a relationship, your person wants to see you all the time and hang out all the time and I can’t handle that. I need adequate space from people so I don’t get annoyed and that’s something I’ve learned from past relationships and friendships. If I’m around someone too often, I will get annoyed there is no doubt about it.

Everyone says college is the time that you find the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with and boy oh boy am I interested to know who that’s going to be. At this point in my life, I have thought about it but it’s not my main concern. Relationships really are not my thing. It’s not that I don’t care about finding a husband, it’s just not something I’m very interested in at this point in my life. Maybe it’s because I haven’t found the right person or maybe it’s because I’m going to be a single cat lady the rest of my life. Either way, I’ll be happy and if I do get married and find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with that's pretty cool and even if I don't; it's still pretty cool.