People always worry that they are enjoying that single life a little too much. Growing up, I would hear my parents talking about how they met each other at the local bar by their university. Often times when those stories are told, a thought would come across my mind: Why am I single? Will I ever marry? Have I met my husband already? It’s actually insane the idea that there is a possibility that you might have already met your future husband or wife in college.
However, it’s okay to be single and enjoy being single especially at the peak of your youth. College is a time to figure life out especially on who you are and what you are going to do for the future. It’s sort of the in between bridge from childhood to adulthood. I am not stating that being taken in a stable relationship in college is a bad thing, in fact, I am more stating to do what is good for you. If being in a relationship is what you need to focus and to grow with your partner than I encourage it.
Sometimes college can be a very rough time where you are basically on your own and it can be hard to provide even food for yourself. Having to deal with unnecessary drama that you waste time on with the wrong people can not only drag down your mood, but I have witnessed certain relationships destroy their own GPA and career. If you are to date someone in college, I would highly encourage one to date someone that is motivated enough to even help motivate you. Date someone or not date someone, it’s not too late in college. Being single is fun and allows people to truly find themselves.
Never allow someone to ruin your life in college. You moved away from home and entered college hoping for an even better life, a refresh button on how you want your life to be now. Being away from home now frees you from the overbearing parents or the reputation you once had in highschool. Find someone that has similar interests as you do and grow together. College is a time to have fun with friends, meet new people, find new passions, and grow in knowledge. Dating can actually enhance some more experience for people, and some can even enhance more from being single. However, do not ever feel obligated to be in a relationship because all your friends are in one or that you merely bored. Never settle for anything less and meet the right people in your life.
The first step in finding the right person for you is learning to do what you love and finding confidence in yourself. Once you figured out who you are and learn to love yourself, then the right person will recognize those amazing features and will fight for you, so for now enjoy your life, the time will come.
