I am sure everyone has asked for relationship advice at one point or another, I can't say I haven't done it either. Sometimes we find it easier to ask others what they would do in a certain situation because we don't know what to do ourselves. But honestly, we shouldn't be asking for advice from others at all. I am sure this has some of you confused because it is our natural tendency to ask for help and seek the opinion of others. But there is a bigger problem with that than we realize.

Every single relationship is different in one way or another. Sure, there are similar situations and issues that are faced, but each relationship is unique and needs to be solved in its own ways. People need to learn solutions and ways to reach those solutions on their own, because what works for them is going to be different than what works for other people.

Building up our own solutions and ways of communication will lead to healthier and hopefully happier relationships overall. Whereas relying on others opinions and solutions can lead to reoccurring issues and unresolved conflicts because they weren't solved in a way that works for that specific relationship. I'm not saying to never ask for others opinions because of course people can not do everything on their own, but solving things on your own terms is going to end up being more effective.

It is nice to have support from the people around you and be able to let out those frustrations with others and seek their help. But the overall picture needs to end up creating peace between the two people that are having the issues, not dragging in a third party to help solve anything. A relationship is between two people and should remain that way. It is unhealthy to let others have a voice in your relationship, it ends up creating more problems in the end.

Don't be the person who posts the issues on social media, pulling in pity from others and letting the whole world know your problems. Finding solutions on your own to problems keeps more positive and open lines of communication in your relationship. But yes, it is nice to be able to lean on others, the key though is to keep their words and voice out of your relationship and keep the relationship solely between the two people it consists of.

Try to keep the third party voices out of the way, create your own solutions, and try not to let others dictate the way your relationship is run. Create your own happiness and find your own solutions, no matter how hard things get. A relationship is between two people, try to keep the noses of third parties out of the way and live your life your way.