"I can change him!" Says every girl that has seen a red flag with their boyfriend. We all think we can "fix" them, but truthfully, you should never have to change or fix anyone, no matter what the case may be.
Is this just a red flag or can this ruin our relationship forever? Can we work through it together or are we just going to walk away when things get a tad difficult?
1. He treats other people badly, including his family.
2. You've heard of past relationships being abusive. Watch the signs.
3. They're too immature to find ambition for anything.
4. Your futures don't line up together.
5. How he treats his mom is how he is going to treat you. How she acts or talks to you, is how it's going to be for the rest of your life. Are you ready for that, sis?
6. He doesn't care about your day.
7. Doesn't ask to make plans first or contact you first.
8. Are they being truthful or are they making promises they can't keep?
9. Love or lust?
10. If they are making disrespectful comments as "jokes," are they really jokes?
11. He doesn't want you around his friends or even introduces you.
12. His history of relationships is either nonexistent or they're all short-term.
13. If sex is all that he's there for, leave him in the bedroom.
14. If you can't have serious and deep conversations about life and the future, that's probably a major issue.
15. Jealous of your friends.
16. Has controlling behaviors-has to look at your phone or know where you're at all times.
17. He doesn't get along with your friends or family.
18. Isn't supportive of your ambitions or future.
19. His actions don't prove his words.
20. Talks badly about his ex. (Remember he once "loved" her, too).
21. He's rude to strangers; waiters: doesn't tip them, say please and thank you
22. Obsessed with his appearance.
23. Arrives late to everything.
24. Never compliments you.
25. Only cares about what they want to do, never do what you want.
26. Is constantly angry or upset with you.
27. Blames you for things you had no part in.
28. Too needy
29. Too much TV/video games
30. Doesn't spend enough time with you.
All of this to say, trust yourself and your gut feelings. If something feels off or wrong about someone, it probably is. Also, these aren't all deal breakers or red flags for everyone. Everyone's relationship is different and just because there is something or multiple things on the list going on in your relationship, doesn't mean you can't work through your issues and they may not be as major as you think.
Learn your self worth and respect yourself enough to know what you deserve from someone and you will never have to question, is this a red flag I'm seeing? Or is this something too major I need to break it off?
