True story: On the second day of my Formal Recruitment process, I found myself girl-flirting my heart out with a fellow theater major who happened to be a member of the sorority I had my eye on. Despite my major introverted-ness, I was killing the girl-flirting game. I had kept it light yet personal. There was no way I wouldn't call this sorority home in two days. That is, until the active member asked me what I would want to do if I didn't want to be an actress. I quickly responded that I would be a homicide detective--like Kate Beckett from my favorite TV show, Castle. Why?

"Oh, because I really like homicide."

Yes. In the middle my recruitment, I told a girl not that I loved crime shows, rather that I love homicide. I quickly backtracked, trying to explain what I really meant. While she laughed it off, I was mortified for the rest of the round. In the end, I ended up getting a bid from that chapter (Delta Zeta) and many people find the conversation humorous. There are many things that should be left unsaid during recruitment. Here are seven things to avoid saying. You know, besides the obvious homicide comment.

1. "What frat is the hottest?"

There are about five million reasons this isn't okay to say during recruitment. The first being as self-respecting man in a fraternity will quickly correct you and say "I'm in a fraternity." Second, if the only reason you're joining a sorority is to gain "status" with guys, you're not going through recruitment for the right reason. You should be joining to gain sisters, not a boyfriend or fwb. While being in a sorority provides opportunities to meet members of fraternities (Hellooo Exchanges!), relationships with the fraternity men are not at the core of our founder's values.

2. "Do you guys party a lot?"

When going through recruitment, actives evaluate PNM (potential new members) not just on how awesome they are, but how much of a liability they are for the sorority. You can be the most wonderful person and they could absolutely love you, but if they become concerned that you're going to throw up on the bus for every social event, it becomes hard for them to vouch for you.

3. "Oh my god, I hate [insert sorority name here]!"

At schools like LMU, interfaternalism is the name of the game, and most members of Greek Life have friends in every single organization on campus.You might think you're showing that you're loyal to a certain organization, but it comes across as rude. As members of the Greek community, we support one another at our philanthropy events, invite each other to date-functions, and love our fellow Greeks. We want members of our sorority to support other organizations fully. You never know whose best friend or biological sister you're talking about!

4. "I'm only going through Recruitment because [insert reason here]."

Whether that reasons be because their parents/best friend/roommate/older biological sister wanted to, or to meet guys and party, this turns off actives because they want sisters who want to be a part of something bigger than themselves. They want sisters who volunteer, who host crafting events, who are not just physically there, but emotionally there. If you're not committed to recruitment, how can you be committed to the sorority?

5. "I really like homicide."

No explanation necessary.

If all else fails, just remember--avoid boys, bank (money), booze, and Bible (religion).