Recently, I've gotten sick of hearing girls around me complain about how terribly single they are. Why is that a problem? Being single can be a great thing. Here's why.
You have more time to spend with your friends.
When you're single, you never have to choose between going to see a movie with your friends or going to dinner with your boyfriend. This makes decisions much easier, as well as results in much happier friends because they don't have to share you with someone else.
There is less drama in your life.
Let's face it. Dating can be dramatic. Especially nowadays with social media and modern technology, couples can tend to get upset with one another fairly easily. When you're single, there's no drama or conflict over how much time you spend with your friends versus your boyfriend, or who your boyfriend may or may not be flirting with.
You are totally independent.
Often times, when people are dating, they become reliant on one another. Your life is no longer your life, but rather you share it with someone else. Many people lose sight of who they really are and are influenced by their significant other. Now, this isn't necessarily bad, but it gets rid of a lot of the autonomy that comes with being single. The complete independence that comes with being single is such a great feeling.
You have control.
Being single doesn't mean boys don't like you. In fact, you may just be single because you don't fall for every guy that shows interest in you. You have respect for yourself, you know what you want and what you deserve, and you don't settle for anything less than that. Being single doesn't have to mean that you can't find anyone who wants to date you, it may just mean you haven't found someone worthy enough who will treat you right.
You have complete freedom to be you.
When you're single, you have all the time in the world to work on yourself and become the person you want to be. Feeling down from a recent breakup? Instead of desperately searching for someone new to fill the void, work on building yourself up so you don't feel the need to have another person fill the empty space, but rather you feel whole on your own. Write in a journal, read a good book, take some time to workout, do whatever it is you love. Being single is a great time to focus on yourself and enjoy life just as it is.
There are way fewer distractions.
College is an important time to think about and prepare for your life after college -- a.k.a. your professional life. When you're constantly texting, Snapchatting, or hanging out with a boyfriend, it's easy to get distracted and fall behind on schoolwork and academics. Take the boyfriend out of the equation, and your grades are likely to improve.
You can spend more money on you.
Think about the amount of money a girl spends doing stupid things with her boyfriend. I mean, yeah, sure, the guy pays for things most of the time, but you still usually pay for some of it. Plus, you probably buy him gifts and such. Without a boyfriend, though, you can spend more money on yourself. Treat yourself. Go on an adventurous excursion. Buy a new book or clothes. Or perhaps save the money so you can do something big you've always dreamed of.
You have the rest of your life to be coupled up.
One day, most of us will get married and we will be "dating" that one lucky person for the rest of our lives. Of course, this is a good thing. But why not enjoy being single now while you can? Adventure. Explore. Grow. Stop complaining you don't have a boyfriend because you may never have time to be as independent and care-free again. Being single for a good amount of time in our lives is important, embrace it.
