It's Time You Realized You Can't Do Everything

It's Time You Realized You Can't Do Everything

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Dealing with pressures and anxieties associated with life’s obstacles is a daily burden. Whether you’re overworked, stressed about school, or the future you see for yourself seems to slowly become more foggy than clear; the pressure of your responsibilities is detrimental to your health.

What’s worse is when the pressures that you feel are the result of your very own doing. I know i’m not alone when I confess that I am often times a bit of a perfectionist. Working tirelessly to succeed, to always be the best at what it is that I do, and to put all my effort into every task - great or small. Still, even a perfectionist knows their limit. I also have a tendency to not say no, which becomes another unfortunate pressure. Not only do I take on my own responsibilities, but I also willingly take on the responsibilities of others when I am asked to do a task. I know that I am beyond busy, yet I say yes because I fear letting anyone down.

Sounds sweet right?

It doesn’t feel that way when it’s 2 a.m. and there’s still so much to take care of and not enough time to complete it all. Most can attest to the feeling of not wanting to disappoint others, while also feeling helpless when it comes to accomplishing so many daunting tasks that just seem to be piling up like unwanted junk mail all at once.

To these issues, I have no definite solution, however I have come to realize that there are a few ways to alleviate some stress. Making time for yourself is important, especially for someone who likes to please others, because people of this nature tend to put their needs on hold to care for the needs of others. This only creates a boiling pot of stress which eventually boils over, spewing all the bottled tension out onto those who may not deserve such wrath.

Having someone to confide in helps tremendously. Someone close who’s willing to lend an ear just so that you can express how you truly feel, without feeling censored, is especially important for people who feel overwhelmed and may not have the opportunity to release their honest feelings at any given time. So grab a friend, sibling, or parent who will listen in detail to what’s on your mind. Even if they can’t offer any advice, just the act of listening is enough for anyone because at least you will feel you are being heard.

Although I still struggle with saying no to people, especially people I care about, I know that we are all just human. That’s right, no super heroes or mutants with unlimited supplies of power or omniscience, just plain old human, therefore my capabilities are limited. As a human, I can only do so much. I must learn that I can’t agree to do everything that is thrown at me. My personal challenge is to work on firmly declining requests when I am fully aware of the overwhelming work load I already have. Remaining firm in my diction and reminding myself that I am not being selfish or inconsiderate rather making time for “me” will ensure that I understand my strengths and acknowledge that I am no superwoman nor do I wish to be.

Recognizing that you don’t have to do or be everything is something that perfectionists find difficult. Once this is acknowledged, the road to lightening the heavy burdens we build for ourselves becomes clear. This opens our lives for time to be spent doing important things such as spending time with people we care about and and appreciating all that life has to offer.
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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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Your Health Journey Is A Marathon, Not A Sprint

Perfection takes time.

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When you first start to do something, you have all of the motivation in the world to accomplish that goal set out in front of you, especially when it comes to being healthier. The problem is as you continue through this journey and food and laziness kick in, motivation slips. It's human, and it happens to everyone no matter how physically strong they are.

Trying to be healthier doesn't always mean losing weight. It can be so your knees don't ache as much, so you don't feel as out of breath climbing stairs, or any goal you have set for yourself. Being healthier is personal and different from person to person.

I will be the first to admit that there are plenty of changes I would love to make about myself. From my weight to my body type and many other things about myself inside and out. I am by no means the most confident person about how I look, but I have worked hard for the past year to be an overall healthier person.

Becoming healthier isn't about looking thinner or fitting into a specific size of clothes. It is about taking care of yourself from eating better to working out more. There comes a feeling of confidence in what your body can do if you put a little love in it.

Perfection takes time, and I know firsthand how frustrating trying to be healthier can be.

Pizza tastes so much better than salad. It is so easy to fall into a rhythm of something that seems never to change whether that is your weight or your mile time. Sadly, you can't build a city, or become healthier overnight.

We see people who are thinner, curvier, smarter, faster, and so much more than us. We all waste time comparing ourselves to people around us and on our timelines, but some of our biggest strengths are our individuality and the gift of getting back up after falling down.

All I can say is, please don't give up on your goal of being healthier because this is solely for you. We can have a great support system in the world and have everyone in our corner, but that isn't enough.

You need yourself. You need to know that if you don't entirely put yourself in this journey, then you won't fully succeed. Your commitment to bettering yourself can keep you going even if you want to give up.

Your motivation may not be at its peak level right now, and you may have every cell in your body screaming at you to quit. Don't do it. Prove to yourself that you can keep going no matter what. Not giving up will be worth it. The results and taking the hard way will make you a stronger person inside and out.

You can do this. You can do anything you want to accomplish if you just believe in yourself. You need to understand that becoming healthier takes endurance. There will be periods where you slow down and may not be going at your fastest pace. The difference is that you are not giving up and you are still trying and moving.

Don't treat becoming healthier as a sprint: short term and quick. That mentality will only leave you feeling deflated and defeated. It is a life-long marathon of pacing yourself and pushing yourself further than ever before.

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