RBF or more commonly known as resting bitch face is pretty much defined as a look on a woman's face that makes them seem angry, unhappy or extremely annoyed. This look is usually isn't voluntary and is usually on a woman's face when she is relaxing, sitting alone or zoning out. The name itself is pretty self explanatory--a bitchy looking face on a person while he/she is "resting". But not only women have it, men can totally have RBF too. Totally a unisex term. Totally involuntary, totally unnoticed by the person giving it. Now there are perks to having an RBF like not being approached by people in stores trying to sell stuff or not being approached by people you have no interest in talking to. It's great for the introvert type people in the world. However, with RBF does come the excessive comments, questions and reactions by all passerby. Here are 9 of the things us with RBF are sick and tired of hearing from pretty much everybody we interact with:
1. [i]" You always look like you are ready to kill someone." [/i]
Good then maybe I won't be approached by annoying people while attempting to get to my destination uninterrupted because they fear for their life.
2. [i]"What's wrong?" or "Are you okay?"[/i]
Yes I am perfectly fine. I am just trying to get to my destination quickly and efficiently. It's like a mission. Trust me, you would know if something as wrong or if I wasn't okay. Just trust.
3. [i]"I'm always so afraid to approach you because look angry at the world."[/i]
Nope. That is just my face. Just the face I got.
4. [i]"Wow you are such a nice person once I start talking to you."[/i]
Yeah duh. I'm not a terrible person, I just have a bitchy face. What's that super popular saying? Don't judge a book by it's cover? Well then, don't judge a chick by her RBF. (We can't help it!).
5. [i]"Smile."[/i] or [i]"You should smile more."[/i] or [i]"You're so much prettier when you smile."[/i]
No. Just No. You telling me to smile is going to make me smile less and frown more. I will do the exact opposite of what you are telling me to do.
6. [i]"Guys are afraid to approach you because you look angry and unfriendly."[/i]
Good then I don't want them to approach me. I want the guy who's confident enough to approach my scary bitch face and dig down for what's underneath. It's just a face, people. It's not like I have claws growing out of my cheeks.
7. [i]"Why do you look like that all the time?"[/i]
Again, it is just my face. I don't know what it looks like when I am just trying to relax. It's just the way my face falls. I just don't smile all the time, it isn't comfortable to me. You know how bad my cheeks would hurt from all that smiling? Ouch.
8. [i]"Your face makes you intimidating but in a bad way."[/i]
Somehow I will figure out a way to cope. Somehow.
9. [i]"I thought you hated me when I first saw/met you."[/i]
No I didn't hate you but I also didn't know you yet and you definitely didn't know me or you would have known that my resting bitch face is a common occurrence and that no offense should be taken. And again, like I said before, just because I have a mean looking face doesn't mean I'm not a nice person. It's just how my face is but just trust that I have a decent personality underneath all that. And I do smile on occasion. Sometimes...every now and then...maybe, if you're lucky.
RBF is a way of life. I know I'm not the only one who has heard these comments or have been asked these questions on the daily. We can't help it, it's just how our faces work. Smiling hurts sometimes and frowning doesn't. Don't judge a person by their RBF, get to know them, they are probably super awesome and fun people. The RBF struggle is real.
