The Pros And Cons Of Rolling A Random College Roommate

Random College Roommates Are Either Your Worst Nightmare Or A Dream Come True

And thankfully, I'm one of the lucky ones.


There is nothing worse than a bad, or even mediocre, roommate.

I've known people that have had them, or had them myself, on every end of the spectrum. Finding a new place to live is already stressful enough, so our biggest hope is that the people we start the new chapter with will make it as easy and stress-free as possible.

College roommates are one of the inevitabilities we all experience.

You can play it safe and room with someone you know and will hopefully be comfortable with, or gamble and go completely random. Random is interesting because there's a strong possibility you'll get a new best friend out of it. But if not, then they are probably your worst enemy. The in-between is in a position too weird to have any impact at all and that roommate will just be someone that is never thought of again.

I have had that roommate who lacks communication and is loud and only cordial to avoid confrontation. They did things that they shouldn't have and made things more difficult than they needed to be. It's such a rough way to live, especially when you know there are people who have made great friends out of their roommates. I've been so jealous of great living situations.

I didn't want to be in a space I helped create and make my own. In a way, it was great because by branching out, I made other friends and it forced me to become more independent. I met some of the coolest people by stepping out of my comfort zone.

Making friends took more effort, but the ones I made were worth it. I still wanted to have good live-in friends, but my mindset was always positive enough to make it work.

All great things take time, and I finally have the best set of roommates.

They're generous and welcoming and friendly. It was unplanned, but we compliment one another well and I couldn't be happier or feel any luckier. It makes me want to soak up time with them that much more. Connections can be made so easily.

It has made another big transition that much easier to handle.

I was starting a new year at college, a new apartment, and a new schedule, and that is already stressful enough on its own. It's incredible to have people around me who are different individuals with separate lives, but that are still willing to get to know me and spend quality time as a unit. We help with our transitions with different experiences and backgrounds.

The support and friendships that can be found with quality roommates could not be a better feeling. They are people you end up spending a lot of time with, regardless of how bad you want to, so nothing beats them being good company.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

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