Every generation is different. Millennials are often more open minded than older generations. Baby Boomers are very hard workers. When each generation fosters a new one they use what they learned from their upbringing and alter the art of parenting to fit what they think is best. There is, arguably, no real better way to raise a child, it is all about perspective.
My perspective is that as long as we learn from history it is hard to go wrong. So in many ways I hope to be as good a mother as mine and hers because they are great role models considering how I turned out.
First of all, children should be listened to. When they are throwing a tantrum or screaming about something, yelling back at them is not going to solve anything. If you remain calm and wait for them to do so then it is a better experience overall. This has been my experience in my limited babysitting adventures. I realize that being a full time parent can put a strain on my ideal reactions, and I am more than likely going to slip up now and again but no one is perfect.
Secondly, in a day when technology is so prevalent in our lives, and is bound to only increase, it is important to separate time away from the bright screens. Children must learn responsibility and what it means to earn something. My child will not be handed the latest iPhone when they are in third grade to take to school. I probably won't let them have any smartphone capabilities until they are at least in high school. This doesn't mean I won't give my child a cell phone when they are younger because it is a beautiful form of communication and a safety measure; however, they don't need to be on social media and taking self-absorbed pictures when they are in middle school.
Many children today do not understand delayed gratification, discipline, responsibility or hard work. Growing up with parents that are teachers I can promise you I will never be walking in and blaming my child's behavior on a teacher. Homework and or chores will come before play.
I always think that my childhood could have been filled with more adventure and fitness. So I hope to take bike rides, hikes, swims and play sports with my kids. I will also be a hypocrite because my children will learn to eat everything! I am a picky eater and I do not wish it upon anyone. I am both grateful and sad that my parents never forced me to eat certain foods. The case may not be the same for my own children, sorry.
Traditions are another thing that I felt was lacking in my own upbringing and I plan to create lots of traditions that I will carry into my children's adulthood. One of the best days of the year is Thanksgiving. Not because of the food, but because it is a time that almost guarantees that I will see my entire family under one roof, even if it is only for a few hours. I want more days filled with family, laughter and expectations.
Children are still a few years off for me, but I think the best thing I can do for them is continue to learn and grow in my own life now so that I can be better for them when they do come around.
To parents everywhere, love is the best thing you can give to any child because everything else will come with love.
