Not Having An Outrageous Social Life Isn't Really All That Bad
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Not Having An Outrageous Social Life Isn't Really All That Bad

Not having a social life is not a bad thing. In fact, it is better than having a social life.

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Not Having An Outrageous Social Life Isn't Really All That Bad
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The life of a lonely person is not really a “fun life” and the dream of all millennials is to have a fun social life and always be number one on someone’s party invite list.

However, there is nothing wrong with living a quiet and lonely life. The social life of a person is not all that it is cracked up to be, and therefore, one should not worry about their social status, but unfortunately, it is the number one worry for a lot of people.

The positive part about my lack of social status is that I am not worried about my social status because I do not have one. If with time I develop a social status that is impressive, then I will think about my social status. Until then, I will continue to lead a quiet life.

I have been living a quiet life for quite some time and what I discovered about it is that it is very peaceful, and it does not contain any drama. When a person has a lot of people to talk to and they think “everyone is their friend,” you will run into a lot of issues.

The more friends you have, the more likely you will have a betrayer. That betrayer will most likely lie within your inner-circle and will expose your most personal struggles to embarrass you and hurt you to the point that it could be mentally and emotionally damaging.

It is good to keep your inner-circle small to lessen the chance of betrayal. I am not saying that betrayal will not happen with a smaller inner-circle because your very-best friend can be a backstabber, but the chances of it occurring are smaller.

For me, what I would suggest is that you do not reveal too much about yourself, even to your best friends, because the less that people know about you at times the better.

There used to be a time where I used to look at my Facebook, Twitter and Instagram periodically and I saw the places whereof a lot of my friends checked-in, and I used to be upset that I was not there myself.

However, when I laid back and thought about the reasons why they were there, I did not feel as upset anymore because I knew that I was not into that type of life.

When I was in high school, the same people who I tried to hang out with were the same people I was friends with on social media, do not ask me why I requested some of them to build my profile up.

In any case, they were the ones who would do everything and anything to “fit in,” and some of those things cost them their dignity.

When I think about it, I am very happy I was not into partying, drinking or sleeping around, as some of my Facebook friends were into. That is one of the good things about leading a quiet social life because the quieter life you lead, the more likely you will be successful in your own ventures because you will not feel anyone is holding you back.

When you have a bigger social circle, you will tend to try to conform to their beliefs and follow in their footsteps, and their footsteps could lead you down a path you do not want to go, so it is much better to follow your own path.

The quiet social life is actually, in my opinion, better than any social status of today's society. Trust me, I have my moments when I wish I can call more than just a few people, but I think it is just meant for me to live a private life and I am not upset about it one bit.

I would not change one thing, except maybe be more outgoing because sometimes my quiet life could have been avoided. However, I have learned to accept my quiet life, and I challenge all of you to try to not worry about social status and just be happy with wherever you consider yourself in the social pyramid.

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