Nowadays, you’ll be hard-pressed to find anyone who’s not at least dabbling in online dating. Is it any wonder why? It’s easy, it’s (usually) fun, and let's be real, it can be super difficult to meet people in your day to day lives. This holds especially true for members of the LGBTQ* community.

Ladies who are into ladies will back me up on this! It’s really hard to meet people. Online dating makes it just a little bit more convenient. Still, it’s not a fool-proof system by a long shot.

If you or any of your friends identify as bisexual, pansexual, or any other non-mono sexuality, and has spent even a day on a dating app, you’re probably very familiar with one of the most exhausting aspects of the process: nonstop requests to be someone’s third.

I get it, okay.

Finding a single girl on a dating app who’s theoretically into both you and your boyfriend/girlfriend seems like an ideal situation.

And hey, we all know the age-old stereotype: bisexuals are greedy and promiscuous people who are mostly just confused. So it makes sense that we’d be down to be your unicorn – or, in the rarer cases, a gift from you to your boyfriend to spend the night with.

But let me make one thing clear.

This is not a flattering proposition.

It’s annoying and frankly disappointing when you swipe right on a cute girl or guy only to read, “Looking to have some fun with me and my boyfriend?” as soon as you guys match.

Want to have a threesome? By all means, go for it!

One of the most beautiful things about the internet is the freedom to explore your sexuality and find exactly what you’re looking for without a lot of confusion or missteps in the process. But swiping right on someone who’s bisexual or into more than one gender isn’t your invitation to go for it.

Misconceptions about bisexuality and other non-mono sexualities aren’t going away anytime soon.

But for now, please, stop letting this one creep it’s way into our inboxes every other day.