Women have it hard as it is. It is already known that we do not get paid as much as men or get treated with the same amount of respect as men, so why are we bashing on each other when it seems like the rest of the world is already doing it to us?
With the help of social media it has become easier than ever to be a judgmental jerk. We can send friend requests to people or follow them just to keep an eye on them. Then there are the people that we follow that we look up to: actors, models, singers, fitness gurus, cats (or is that just me?) and so many others. The problem is that since we are safe behind our phone or laptop screens we tend to feel unstoppable. Say you follow a model on Instagram, and in a post she's eating a salad - there are countless amounts of comments saying that "she's starving herself" or "no one likes skinny girls" and others along those lines. The next day that same model is eating a greasy cheeseburger, there will be comments like "She shouldn't be eating that" or "She's going to throw it up anyway." No matter what we do, there will always be people who aren't happy with our decision.
Women bashing other women should be a crime. When the world is against us we should want to stand together and look after one another. Unfortunately that isn't the case. Sometimes, though, you get extremely lucky and can find someone who cheers you on from the sideline. These are the people that recognize the queen that you are. These women realize the struggles of life and know what it's like to have encouragement they need. Leave the childish games, the name-calling, the back-stabbing, the rumor-spreading, and the lies. Surround yourself with women that know what you're going through and chose to stay.
One occasion in particular that really just made me feel great about myself happened in my accounting class. I rarely wear makeup to class, but on this particular day I was in the mood to. Nothing too dramatic, just some foundation and some mascara to make myself not look as dead. Four women that I have never spoken to in my life had complimented me telling me how pretty I looked that day, which resulted in us striking up a conversation. It is moments like that one that really make a person feel good about themselves. They built me up instead of crashing me down.
On Facebook there are a few women that really show me love. Of course my family will comment on my selfies and say how beautiful I am and those mean a lot. To me, though, it's the women that I have never really had a friendship with that comment on them with emojis or a cute comment saying I look gorgeous that mean so much to me. Queens look out and recognize other queens, and that's exactly why they leave comments on there. They look out for me and in return I look out for them. You guys read my articles, you know I'm talking about you! Women have to stand by one another to rise up against whatever the world is throwing our way.
It is not hard to be there for other women, but it is so easy to become jealous of women. They can post about their nice life or nice body and you can't help but envy them a little. That has to stop. We have to stick by each other or people will always take us for granted. How will people take us seriously if we don't even like each other half the time? The answer is they won't. That is why it is so important to love one another and encourage each other. Life is hard, it is especially hard for women. Get up and become the woman you want to be, the queen you know that you are. While you are building yourself up, don't knock others down.
