Do you ever get the urge to shake someone and tell them that they are an idiot? Because for me, I get that urge just about everyday. I resist though because that's a good way to lose a friend... Or scare a stranger.
One thing (above many others) that makes me want to shake people, is when they call their significant other their "everything." No no no no no no NO. Just no. Hard no.
You should never put your "everything" in a person. Let me be more specific, you should never put your "everything" in an imperfect person, for the precise reason that they are not perfect. They will make mistakes, and they will let you down. Putting your "everything" into a person is just setting them up for failure. You are putting too much pressure on that individual.
God's design for His people was for man to be with woman. He made Adam, said it wasn't right for him to be alone, and thus made Eve. But His design was not for Adam to make Eve his "everything." Eve was to be his partner, his friend, his lover, his family, his supporter. All of those things through his life, not to be his life.
Adam didn't stop feeding the animals and tending to the garden once Eve came along. He just did it with a little more pep in his step.
Who you end up with in life should make you happier, but not be your happiness. You should be happy before you meet this person, and should still be able to be happy if they leave (after an appropriate amount of grieving time of course).
You should have dreams and ambitions that do not depend on another person. Your goals in life shouldn't stop at finding that "perfect person." Cause, first of all, they don't exist. You aren't going to get to ride away in your carriage toward happily ever after without hitting a few bumps in the road. But if both of you put your "everything" where it should go, in Jesus Christ, then you will be able to make it through anything.
I said not to put your "everything" into an imperfect person because they will let you down. But if you put your "everything" into the only perfect person that ever lived, He will never let you down.
People are putting too much stock into relationships these days. Obviously being in love is fun and God gave us the gift of marriage for a reason. But that reason is to show us how much He loves us. The love between a husband and wife is the closest earthly example of Christ's love for us. His love is forgiving. His love is graceful. His love is merciful. All of these things when we least deserve it. And no matter how much your boyfriend or girlfriend loves you, they can never love you like He does.
Don't expect a perfect love from a broken person.
I can't wait until I get married. It is going to be one of the happiest days of my life. My husband is going to be the person I love most in this world. He is going to be my best friend, the person who makes me laugh the hardest, my biggest cheerleader, my favorite person to see at the end of each day, the father to my children, and the person who makes fun of me the most. But he is not going to be my everything. He is not going to be my savior.
I already have one.
And He is my everything.
