Religion teaches us to put other people's needs in front of our own. Yes, it's a very noble thing to do. But to what extent? Should I help my friend finish her essay before I've started my own? Or should I donate all my free time to assisting those in need? It may sound crude, but no you shouldn't put everyone before yourself. If I spend the majority of my time helping others how will I take care of myself? Who will take care of me? Nobody would. That is my job. Our priority should be to take care of ourselves and be the best we can be. Then once you're stable enough you can help those around you. There is nothing wrong with lending a helping hand or taking on another's problems, as long as you're already taken care of.
More often than you think, you'll be more useful to a person if your well balanced. For instance, when a plan is in trouble and the oxygen masks fall down, they instruct you to put your air mask on first before assisting anybody else, this includes your children. Why do you ask? Because if you pass out before you help them, then you'll be no use to anyone. This dramatic example should be applied to everyday life as well. Whether it is a friendship or a relationship it's important to focus on yourself first and make sure the relationship is healthy for you. Never feel guilty about looking after yourself first. You and everyone around you will be much better off if your make yourself a priority.
I'm not advocating that you be a selfish monster who only cares about yourself, but you can't let your affection for others consume you. Your priority should be yourself and your happiness. Take some time to yourself. Find time to exercise, read your favorite book, watch the new season of "Game Of Thrones" or even just take a nap. Whatever it is, make sure you're happy and well-nurtured before trying to help others achieve the same. Nobody is going to take care of you as well as you can, so treat yourself with respect and put the effort in.
