Here we go. It’s time for a guy’s perspective on life, love, and the meaning of. Now when I say, "A good man is hard to come by," I mean it as that. I whole heartedly believe that you’ll cross paths with maybe a handful of potential mates that are not only sexually attracted to you but have a genuine interest in whom you are as an individual. Very few will take the time to sit there and listen to stories about your childhood or the goofy things about you, or even the darkest parts of your life and still find each topic you two discuss to be exciting and invigorating.

So, listen up ladies, when you see that characteristic in a guy you find attractive on a personal and physical level, don’t pass it up.

There’s another point I would like to make. I know this statement is going to ruffle some feathers. So sit tight and bear with me. I developed this thought recently one morning while making breakfast, and it goes a little something like this: the false pride of women is forged in the belief that there are an infinite number of good men out there.

Now it may sound rude, but let me explain. I personally have been lead on, lied to, cheated on, and mistreated by a number of girls in my life. I’m not going to sit and say that some of it may not have been deserved, because we all have the capability of being terrible people. But every girl I have ever taken an interest in, I have passionately pursued, learning everything I could about her. Each new fact about her drew me in that much more. I gave genuine effort in making it work because I saw potential in each of the situations. Some people could describe this behavior as obsessive or even forceful. But let me ask you this. When you find the person you want to marry or be with do you want someone who is just there for your physical appearance and will give up once a fight happens? Or someone who is there for who you are as a person along with your physical appearance, and who’s willing to make things work because they want to be with you? Because my intentions are to find someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with, does that make me a "good man" in the eyes of a woman? Even if I have my own set of faults? Especially when most men my age are only looking for short term?

So, when times got rough and fights would happen it seemed that I was supposed to lie down and take all the blame because apparently it was my fault entirely. Many times I did just that, out of courtesy for the girl, and walked away from the situation. But God forbid I ever stuck up for myself. Next thing you know I was being ripped a new one. The girl would take the approach of, “How dare you say any of this is my fault?” Which as a guy I can tell you really pisses us off and makes us feel like it was worthless to pursue you in the first place. And because I stuck up for myself once out of the many times I instead took the blame, I became the "bad guy," not only to the girl I was with but also all of her friends.

You have to be able to own up to your own mistakes and talk about them with your partner, especially if you really want the relationship to work. You can't just force all the blame on another, when it takes two to have a relationship and two to start and continue a fight. Most importantly, you shouldn't walk away, labeling someone the "bad guy" without even trying to hear and work things out first. There aren't an infinite number of other "good guys" out there, despite what many women still believe.

All in all, the point I am making is this: don’t let a good man pass you by, ladies. I mean, isn’t a person who will take a genuine interest in who you are on a much deeper level than just your physical appearance what we're all looking for in the first place? Someone who will be there for you always because you’re just that special to them? So, don’t pass that up when a guy really takes that much time and interest in you. Don't let the blame-game ruin something good.

When worst comes to worse, it wasn’t meant to happen and you break up, but don't let the end be from some stupid argument that could have easily played out differently. On the other, more successful hand, you could end up with a life-long friend along with the possibility of a long-lasting, romantic relationship.