What is that pride you may speak of? What is pride anyways and why do people seem to be so prideful. Pride can be defined as a feeling of having a deep pleasure or satisfaction from one's achievements, the achievements you have worked so hard on accomplishing. The achievements that you believed would never be accomplished. The achievements you dreamed of accomplishing. Well sadly most people don't view pride as being " a satisfaction for one's achievements." It is viewed as feeling better than others, as feeling superior, as feeling like one of a kind compared to the rest of the people around you. It can carry two "antithetical" meanings. A negative definition of pride can be referred to feeling superior to the people around you. While a positive definition of pride refers to feeling honored when accomplishing something you are truly proud of.

Pride is something that many of us are guilty of having, and of applying in our daily lives. It is something that makes a person feel better about themselves and feel like they have all the power in the world. I won't sit here pretending like I am the perfect human being and not acknowledge that I have always put my pride aside. There are many times when I have let my pride strongly get ahold of me. It has left me feeling regretful and horrible. Letting your pride win over you may feel good at first, but later on it may seem like a mistake. It appears to be something that is so common in the daily lives of humans and most importantly when it comes to relationships. Many people want to feel like they share more importance than the other person and build a wall of pride and never seem to want to bring it down. It contributes to making the other person feel worthless wondering, "does this person truly care for me, or will they ever let there pride go for me?" It constructs feelings of uneasiness, making the other person feel unwanted and sometimes even unloved.

Pride is something that is often driven by poor self- worth and shame. We happen to feel so bad about ourselves that we often times compensate to feel better than others. We let our insecurities win over us, and try to use pride to conceal them. "We look for others flaws as a way to conceal our own. Pride is something that truly enables us to acknowledge what is around us, and prevents us from saying what we truly want to say. It is like a thought running through our minds that tells us, "no you are better than that." It is something that truly prevents us from bringing our human vulnerabilities to the world, our vulnerabilities that are meant to be showed, to be showed for the beauty, for the emotions. Pride is something that makes us uncomfortable to say such things as; "I apologize it was my fault, and I acknowledge what I did, and I hope you forgive me." Instead it grants us with a sensational that we are always right.

As I started to go through experiences with pride, I started to ask myself, "what is the point? I am losing the people I love for this thing called pride." I started to acknowledge that I am a human being as well as everyone else, and humans make mistakes. We make mistakes to learn from them, to grow, to become better people. I recognize that I had both strengths and weaknesses, and I wasn't going to let pride stop me from recognizing them. I learned that showing my vulnerability was something that was truly going to invite true friends in my life that would be happy for who I was, not who I portrayed to be. I started to realize that I am not better or worse that anyone else. I am simply human. I am fighting my own battle as well as everyone else.

We don't need to achieve "greatness" in order to establish worth and value. We're great just as we are. We might be inclined to pursue excellence because it feels meaningful, and enlivening, but not because it defines who we are as a person. When pride substitutes for our human dignity, it disconnects us from the real world and conveys us with a fantasy world. A world that doesn't truly exist, because as humans we should support each other instead of thinking we are better that the people around us. Pride constructs false illusions, and won't allow us to move freely unless we decide to build the wall down and remember who we are, and who we truly want to become.