Stop Pretending To Be Someone Else You Aren't To Please Other People

Stop Pretending To Be Someone Else You Aren't To Please Other People

If people can't accept you for you they aren't worth your time.


Have you ever seen the movies where the girl has an only friend and dreams of being popular? She goes through a transformation where everyone in the school wants to be her friend and the guy she has always had a crush on finally notices her. She begins to change but the only person who realizes it is her one true friend who deep down has always liked her. So why did I just describe almost every high school coming of age movie? Sometimes we are so caught up in wanting to impress certain people that we lose sight of who we really are. We try to impress people by doing things we vowed we would never do. Some people aren't worth the time. I know this too well because I have done this before.

If there is something that I have struggled with it's been who I have wanted to be. I used to not think I wasn't good enough and had to be someone else so I would be liked. When I came to college I bounced around with different groups before I realized who my friends were and it still took time before I found my friends who have been by my side. If you need to impress someone by doing something you would never do chances are you wasting your time because they aren't worth it. One of my biggest fears growing up was that I wouldn't be liked but I see that if someone doesn't like me then they don't like me. There are millions of people who would love you the way you are and it is up to decide how you will portray yourself.

When I was younger I felt invisible to the point that I thought I needed to change who I was to get attention. I felt alone and worthless. There were times I would feel so down in the dumps that I wouldn't even say anything. Looking back this now I realized this situation was handled in the correct way and that I should've done more than just walking around sulking. However, the instance I mentioned that I was going to change one thing all my friends and people who cared about me would come to my defense and tell me why it wasn't a good idea. There are going to be times in life where you think you don't matter but you do matter and there are people out there who love and care about you.

I am a chatterbox. I am a guy who loves to be goofy. I am someone who will always be there for you. Most importantly I am me. It might have taken me some time to realize who I am and what I want to be but being me is the best thing I can be. As long as I can remember people always noted how I made time for others and was the caring guy. It took me tome to realize that being the nice guy is ok and I hope everyone realizes that it is ok to be the person you are.

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Thank You To The Person Who Made Me Feel Like I Wasn't Enough

Because you hurt me, I'm happier than ever.

To the person who made me feel like I wasn't enough—thank you.

Thank you for always making me feel like I had to try harder. You taught me how to never give up. I needed you, or I thought I did, so I fought and fought for you even when I was well past the point where I should have given up. But I never did. So you showed me just how far I can push myself before breaking. For that, thank you again.

Thank you for fighting with me. Because you fought with me, I learned how to better pick my battles. That's so important to know in life. Battles that aren't fought aren't lost; they're just not worth the fight. Since you, I've become more level-headed and understanding. I'm more mature about issues, and believe it or not, sometimes I'm actually right. So thank you for showing me that not every fight is worth it.

Thank you for the good times. When it was good, it was great. But when it was bad, it was awful. It can't be denied that we had a good time whenever we were together. The laughs, inside jokes and planning our future. It got me prepared for my life now. It helped me realize that I can share so much about my life with someone. It gave me the confidence to fully be me with my new relationship, and he accepts that. Thank you for allowing someone else to experience my life with me.

Thank you for letting me love you. Loving you was emotionally exhausting. I loved and loved and loved, hoping that maybe one day you would return it all, and you never did. But since I loved you with all I had, it proved to me that someone someday would be able to return it. I love better now, with no limitations; just freely, because I finally found someone to return it. You loved me when I was mad at you, when you needed me for something or when you were guilty. It was never just about us. Thank you for showing me what love isn't about. Because of that, I can love my person endlessly.

Thank you for cheating on me. Whoa, never thought I would write that sentence. You hurt yourself, and of course, you hurt me, but you made me strong. The sentence always replays in my head: "I cheated on you; I don't deserve you, but you will find someone who does."

You were right. You do not and never did deserve me. And you were right again—I did find someone who does. Because of you, I'm not as weak. I don't break as easily. And I stand up for myself now. Yes, you made me insecure because somebody I invested over a year of my life into threw it all away without good reason. But I'm so thankful you did. I had to learn to get up and love myself. I had to have the strength to smile through the pain. Since then, I couldn't be happier. I learned to love myself, and in the process found someone who loves me more than that. He sees my flaws and loves me anyway. He understands me. He accepts me for who I am.

If it wasn't for you, I would have never experienced hurt. But if it wasn't for you, I wouldn't be where I am today. Thank you for making me. I loved the idea of who I thought you were, but I could never really love you. I planned a future in my head and tried to fit you into it, but you were too scared of commitment. All I had to realize the whole time was that God had already planned my future, and it was without you. He gave me the person my future was planned around. And strangely, it looks a lot like the one I had planned in my head ... except in this one I'm smiling.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.


I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

I do not understand why it is so hard to be respectful of one another. If someone goes after another person talking about how absolutely terrible it is of them thinking something should be illegal, the person who's being yelled at should respectfully ignore the other individual's disrespectful remarks. If the individual does not stop, then they are not aware that they are making no difference in the world.

What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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