Men, We Are Trying To Capture Your Potentials In College And Somehow That Might Be Ok

Men, We Are Trying To Capture Your Potentials In College And Somehow That Might Be Ok

It might be ok.


This is something that has been on my mind recently with Danielle Bradbery's Song, but I have noticed some of the things on my own on top of the song. I think that as a female in college, you come to realize that males don't exactly have everything put together. Granted, there are moments that we as females don't have our shit together half the time, but as I have recently discovered they may look like they have everything together as we do but at the end of the day, they could use a little construction. This construction to me means potential, who men could be but who they aren't quite yet.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not trying to say this about all the men I come across. But, what I do know is that it sometimes feels like a carnival ride being around some men. Every day, you are trying to feel out if the ride is going to be bumpy or not, even before it happens. So when there are times that do shine the light on them in a unique but still confusing way, you analyze everything a little bit deeper. You try to figure out why they may be clueless about something or why they won't text you back in a timely fashion.

But deeper than that, you may think you know them better at times and can see their true potential and where they may be going in life. They may not be on your whole journey, but they will be a part of it soon. But you still know deep inside that they can work harder and get out of their shell a little more once they let their potential shine. My point being is that its ok to be a work in progress but at the same time being aware of the progress that you are making as you are navigating through this thing life. We all are trying to figure out where we are meant to be, but it just may take a little bit of time.

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To My Best Friends Boyfriend, Thank You For Taking Care Of Her When I'm Not Around

I never feel like a third feel and you've become sort of like a brother to me.


Thank you. You make her the happiest I have ever seen her and that means the world to me. She loves you with all of her heart, and I know that the feeling is mutual. Thank you for not being a boyfriend who doesn't let her spend time with her best friend. And thank you for not making me feel like a third wheel when we all hang out.

You've become like a brother to me over the three years I've known you. You're one of the nicest, most genuine people I know, but you also know how to intimidate someone into leaving me alone. I know you won't hesitate to rough someone up for messing with me, even if it means having to drive two hours away to do so.

One of the things I miss the most about being home is getting to spend time with you and Ashley and hearing you call me "Patrice" instead of my first name. Others have tried to give me that nickname, but it doesn't have the same ring. Anytime Ashley comes to get me, it's always followed by, "Jake said he misses Patrice," and I always laugh.

Watching you grow over these three years has inspired me so much. You've got your own apartment, your own vehicle, and you still make sure you have time to spend with Ashley, and I know that means the world to her. I know it might sound weird, but I am so proud of who you've become and who you're pushing to be.

I'm not going to put any of the "if you hurt my best friend I'll…" in this letter, because firstly, I know I couldn't do any physical harm to you, and secondly, it's pointless because I know how much you love that girl. But, I will say this; please don't hurt her. Always make her happy. Don't rush to decide something, and always, always, make sure she goes to sleep knowing that you love her.

You and Ashley are the family that I will forever cherish. We're not blood, but you and her both treat me like we are. Without you guys, I wouldn't have been able to make it through my first semester at school. Y'all encouraged me to keep going and to not give up on classes or to give up on writing.

So, to my best friends boyfriend, thank you for everything you do. From treating her with the most love I have ever seen from a boyfriend of hers to treating me with the most respect I have ever gotten from any of my friends' significant others. Without you, I might still be stuck on a boy who doesn't care about me, or even worse, never have gotten to meet my cat nephew, Lil Boat.

Keep being you.



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If You Would Leave Your Significant Other If They Didn’t Have A Dollar To Their Name, It’s Not True Love

Money will get you anything you want, unless it's a fairy tale romance.


We have all heard about the Jeff and MacKenzie Bezos split. Jeff Bezos's fortune amounts to 140 BILLION dollars. With that money, he could have bought absolutely anything in the world that he wanted. I mean, what would you choose to buy with that wealth? However, in the end, the one thing he couldn't buy was, clearly, a happy marriage.

Let's take a moment to imagine that you jump into the future 50 years. What aspects of your life are you reflecting on?

Are you thinking about the outfits you wore, the status you showed off with your nice car, and all the money you had to spend on things you wanted?

Or are you measuring the quality of your life through the relationships you had with others? Maybe, most significantly, a romantic relationship?

If you've turned on the radio recently, you'll know that it's no secret that one thing almost everyone desires the MOST is true love.

Our society has learned to laugh at that notion, saying that companionate/ realistic love is really the only type of romance people get in real life.

So what do we do? We turn to money. It fills all the emotional voids we have in our unfulfilling lives. Yes, our unfulfilling lives. If you were satisfied with every aspect of your life, there would be no need for spending money aside from survival essentials.

When you turn your back on the idea of true love because you deem it "unreal" and turn to money, you may as well call yourself Alexander Hamilton because you are setting yourself up for a long life of feeling unsatisfied. Because, the truth is, fairy tale romances do actually exist.

But money will never buy it for you.

In fact, it may distract you and create the illusion of true love. Just because you enjoy the fancy gifts, homes, and trips someone can provide you does not mean you are absolutely, truly, head over heels in love with them.

If you wouldn't be with your partner if they didn't have a dollar to their name, it's not true love.

You can't pay for someone to truly love you, and extravagant gifts will never buy someone's love, just their comfort.

So if you can't buy love, how do you get it?

You've been hearing this since grade school, but getting your priorities straight is a MUST.

Work is important, and earning a salary is necessary. But work and money should never be what is most important in life, and you should never prioritize money above a significant other.

Finding the person you are meant to be with takes time, and maintaining the love between the two of you is no simple task.

Always put your significant other ahead of any desire of yours. Their needs should always come first, and for them, your needs will always come first.

It's the little things that keep people madly in love, not something money can buy.

The conversations you have with each other from the heart, the extra burden you put on yourself one day to allow your significant other to sleep in, or the meal you prepare for them so they have one less thing to worry about. The little, everyday things remind your S/O that they mean the world to you. Not the amount of money they're willing to spend for you.

So next time you're counting up your money to see if you have enough to afford the next new fun thing you want, consider how worthless it actually is to the quality of your life.

Love will bring your life value. Money will you bring you materials.

Don't settle for someone you're comfortable with. Find that person you would be with if they didn't have a dime in the world because that person will make you happier than any amount of money or materials ever could.

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