It Is Possible To Overcome Anxiety

It Is Possible To Overcome Anxiety

No matter how difficult it might seem, it is possible to lessen your anxiety's control on your life.

It's possible to overcome anxiety.

I never thought that I would be able to write those words and actually believe them.

Now, I'm not referring to your everyday, run-of-the-mill anxiety, like when you get nervous over taking a big exam or dread having to talk on the phone. I'm talking about real anxiety that you can feel in every nerve of your body, the type that makes you break out in a sweat, blurs your vision, and speeds up your heart rate. Anxiety that springs from the most normal and common situations. Anxiety that is always lurking in your shadow, waiting to take you by surprise. Anxiety that twists your sense of self and damages your ability to live the life you want. That's the anxiety I'm talking about.

Anxiety is an old friend of mine - well, more like an old enemy. I was always shy growing up (note: being shy and being anxious are not the same thing) but I didn't begin experiencing constant nervousness until I hit my middle school years. Throughout the course of a typical school day, I would encounter situation after situation that would make my heart feel like it was about to burst out of my chest and make my stomach feel like it was tied up in knots. My anxiety only worsened in high school.

Something changed my senior year of high school, though: I stopped caring about what people thought of me and instead starting living my life in accordance to my own ideals. Groundbreaking, I know. I started to develop more confidence in myself, which helped out considerably when it came to pretty much everything. I don't even think I consciously realized what I was doing, but slowly things that once caused me to panic now only resulted in mild discomfort. Things only improved once I began going to college. I am now doing things that once seemed impossible.

I still consider myself an incredibly anxious person, and there are still plenty of times where I can physically feel my anxiety crippling me. But looking back on how I use to be, I am in awe of how much progress I have made and the things that I am able to achieve now that I don't let my anxiety get in the way of living my life.

Anxiety isn't something that simply vanishes. You don't struggle with it for years just to wake up one morning and feel as peaceful, content, and confident as can be. That would be awesome, but sadly that's completely unrealistic. Gaining the upper hand when in comes to your anxiety is a gradual process that spans years, and even then the end goal is not that, eventually, your anxiety will go away. As I asserted before, anxiety is something that likes to hide sometimes. I believe that anxiety is something that I will battle my whole life. The goal, in my eyes, is to make it a battle in which you are almost always on the winning side.

I think it's important to realize that having anxiety doesn't make you weak. Though I don't think we should be bragging about it, I also believe that we shouldn't be ashamed by having anxiety either. I'm not ashamed. I will always be an anxious person. It's just another one of the many traits that, as a human being, I possess. However, I refuse to let this one thing define who I am and completely shape my life. No matter how difficult it might seem, it is possible to lessen your anxiety's control on your life. I'm living proof.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Working On My Emotional Health Is At The Top Of My To-Do List

I'm finally realizing the importance of my mental and emotional health.


The month of April has been so eye-opening for me. For the first bit of the year, I felt like I was in a slump; like I was just going through the motions and not fully living my life.

I was letting boy drama, school stress, and my poor actions to deal with those issues take over my life. I was allowing the anger and shame from those mistakes bubble up inside me until I was just about ready to explode.

I was allowing myself to go back to old ways of coping with problems that I knew weren't healthy, but I knew would be a short-term fix.

I simply wasn't living.

Then, one day I woke up and told myself I needed to change, and that if I didn't, I'd be on this same path ten years from now... or worse. I told myself I needed to get my life back on track with the Lord and with who I want to be as a rising senior in college.

After meeting with one of the leaders at my church (btw, everyone needs a Mrs. Jenny in their life!) and with my therapist, I'm starting to realize how important my emotional health is. My way of dealing with problems hasn't been working all that well, so I know it's time to try something else.

It's all going to be a huge learning process (and at times, an uphill battle), but I know working on my emotional health now will build me to be the best I can in the future.

By learning to become more open to healthier ways of dealing with issues as they come up (like not avoiding problems and actually facing them head-on), I know I can become my best self, and that is something I'm willing to work on with my whole heart.

So, I'm learning to let go of needing to control everything in my life because honestly, wanting to control everything puts me more out of control than when I first started.

And, I encourage you to do the same.

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