Breakups are the worst, believe me, I know. It’s like losing your best friend and significant other all in one. If you’re anything like me, you don’t cry in public or much at all. I don’t like anything having to do with people seeing me sad or upset. I hate crying in front of anyone, even my best friends and parents. So, usually, I wait until I’m alone or hold it in (which isn't good because it builds up and hits you all at once; trust me, I've been there plenty of times). So when I’m feeling sad or think I may cry, I turn it into something funny or positive. So let’s be together in this and change all these negatives into positives!
Negative: You don’t get to share food.
Positive: You can share food with yourself. Every meal you have, at least you can have it all to yourself. The more food, the better too.
Negative: No more gifts.
Positive: You can spend all that money on yourself now. Go buy yourself something you’ve been eyeing for a while now! Get new clothes to go out in!
Negative: No one to cuddle with.
Positive: Let’s be honest, it gets too hot cuddling and touching someone all night. You now get a bed all to yourself. Also, no hogging covers because you can have the covers for yourself. You can sleep in the middle of your own bed too.
Negative: You can’t go on dates with that person anymore.
Positive: You can go out with your best friends! I know it isn’t the same, but at least you’re going out with people who actually want to go out with you instead of your ex.
Negative: No one is texting you anymore.
Positive: Text your friends instead. They’ll keep your mind off of texting your ex. So whenever you have the urge to message them, have a friend to always have on call instead.
Negative: They broke your heart.
Positive: Your perfect soulmate is coming for you soon, so don’t see it as someone hurting you. See it as just one more person to get to your actually husband or wife.
Negative: You aren’t in a relationship anymore.
Positive: You can start dating again when you’re ready, but other than that, you’re free to do as you’d like! That’s a good thing! There’s no one to nag on you, stop you, or argue with you about something you want to do. You can wear whatever you want, talk to who you’d like, and go out as you please.
I know it hurts like hell. I’ve been there, done that. I’m in that place right now. I’m suffering with you, but it’s okay because we’re all together in being single. It’s hard and it breaks you down, but when you’re ready, try looking on the bright side of things. Maybe things weren’t working and that’s okay. You’re both happier now and it’s better for you to be broken up than be in a toxic relationship. Hopefully you can change these negatives into positives. After a while of sulking, these definitely helped me. Maybe it’ll help you too. After all, the glass is half full.
