Come and join me -- we can relate to each other. As much as we know how painful and pointless it might be, we still find a way to make the situation brighter and more positive.
We hopeless romantics, we wait. We send risky messages and we hold on tightly to our phone as we wait for a reply. “I miss you.” It’s a shame that we still manage to pour our hearts out. We keep waiting for something that won’t reciprocate and we tend to find an excuse for anything that doesn’t seem right at first glance. "He is probably busy, that’s why he doesn’t reply," you tell yourself, but none of these things are true.
It is a confusing stage, in which you wonder if you are doing the right thing or not – but more than likely you always end up convincing yourself to keep holding on to the person you love. We hopeless romantics always find a reason to stay, no matter the troubles and painful sleepless nights – we long for the day that one person turns back and runs into our arms.
Realistically, that might never happen. But in our heads, the picture of the day we get to hold that person’s hand again is still fresh and intact. We created so many memories, and a love that we swear no one would ever understand, and a pedestal that no one would ever be able to replace.
All we plead for is having that person back in our life, and if we are so hopeful over the relationship, it is because we were given one reason to still care -- regardless of whether that person needed space, time, or to find itself.
I will give you my innocent opinion, from a hopeless romantic to another. Our stubborn minds keep us away from a more tranquil reality, where we tell ourselves that “there is no one out there for us, except for that one person,” though that person has failed you one way or another. If you don’t want to stop trying, fine -- remain loyal and committed, but don't stop yourself from being the person you always were before he or she came into your life. Use the necessary space to meditate things and take a bigger look at the situation, and a more meaningful look at your life. You don’t have to feel like you are wasting your time, if you are hopeful in the sense that things will get better throughout the days, then be patient and strong without losing your mind.
Though, time is relative and we can’t guess what we will be feeling in a series of time. A person in love doesn’t fall out of it in a matter of seconds, but when you get tired of being ignored and unimportant, your heart covers itself with a blanket of dignity and finally self-love. That person can’t promise to come back, but if he or she does, you can’t promise to still be there waiting either. And also, you must take into consideration that if that person has decided to block you out of his or her life, it is worthless to keep waiting. That person has made the decision of avoiding you and leaving you with your chains of pain all on your own.That is the sad reality.
This is just another letter roaming down the Internet, and you -- you are a special human being that deserves to have a happy love story to tell. There are two sides to the story although they fall in between many reasons and details. But concretely, you either decide to stay and hope for the best, or you take one for the team (you, yourself, and you) and put an end to your sadness.
Either way, I will be honest, it will hurt. But pain is temporary, just as you learned that love is too. If you are trapped in this situation, I like you. I admire the beautiful feelings you’ve got in your precious heart although you have been put through this hard situation. You are a patient and kind human being that deserves to be loved unconditionally, and however things turn out, I truly hope you receive that love from the person you long for or someone way better.
Dear hopeless romantic,
Stop believing that every person you meet is the one; stop treating everyone as if they were far more important and special than you. Don't make yourself less, because somewhere out there is someone that prays to meet you soon. Stop giving everyone you meet a pedestal to stand on, stop making everyone you meet "the one," because when you truly meet "the one," you won’t even know it.
