Instead Of Getting Played By Guys, Join In On Their Game

Instead Of Getting Played By Guys, Join In On Their Game

Be the coach of the game, not a player.


Boys these days love playing a good game. It's what they consider "talking" now. So the question I want to answer is how to avoid being played and actually end up the winner of the game.

The most important thing to remember is to not trust all the words coming out of a guy's mouth because most of the time it's just diarrhea spilling it out of it. Guys find amusement in playing mind games with us girls and making us think their intentions are much more genuine than they really are.

To prevent getting played, you have to consider life one big chess game.

Know your next two moves ahead and your partners. That is vital to winning the game they love playing. For guys, if it isn't official, there's nothing stopping them from going out and dogging. A part of their game is making the girl see a future with the guy she'll be with him while he can dog.

One of my guy friends told me that he used to go to sleep at night knowing what's going to happen next and knowing the girl can't do anything to prevent what's going to happen next because they just don't know what's going to happen.

I had this guy over the summer who I thought would end up being my boyfriend but in the end, I just got played.

I expected those three months of flirting to blossom into something more but it ended up just being a summer fling. The guy made it seem like he really liked me, he even told me he loved me. But his words definitely didn't reciprocate his actions. He was leading me on the whole summer about us getting into a relationship just so I would blow every other guy off and just talk to him.

He played me really well, I'll give him that.

Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because it taught me so much and now I can be the coach in the game, not just a mere player or victim.

To play the game back is a complete mind game. You have to make the guy want you and make him jealous. You have to make him unable to sleep at night knowing you're out.

He will always think you're with other guys and that will mess him up mentally. Playing the game is something you have to really be mentally prepared for. You can't give up even if the guy tries something. Imagine you're about to get something from someone but right before it's handed to you, you say something and ruin it for yourself... How would you feel? Pretty stupid, right?

That's what you have to do to guys. Right before things go down you have to bring something up or say something that he'll have a stupid answer to which will kill the vibe of doing something sexual. This will lead the guy to go home feeling stupid and having the intention to hit you up to try again. This will put him in your pocket. You have to throw the guy off his game.

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Are You The One? The Right Type Of Person For You Will Likely Be This

Breaking down the number one determiner you should be watching for in prospective friends and partners.


Growing up, I was always told that "although relationships may come and go, family is forever," and, unknowingly, this adage has played a greater role in my life than I had ever realized. In determining both the individuals I choose to share meaningful friendships with, and those that I choose to be within relationships, one aspect of a person's character has always played a determining part in how I create an opinion of him or her: how he or she talks about, acts around, and treats his or her parents.

Some children start off as really close with their parents, push away from them during the teenage years, and then later return to being mom or dad's best friend again in adulthood. Others were not close with their parents as kids and later became their best confidants as they grew older. Some, unfortunately, were never close with their parents, and others just lost touch once they moved away or had families of their own. Whatever the situation may be, if a person grew up in a home where one's parents were far from perfect, yet did everything in their power to be really good ones, that in itself is reason enough to be thankful for, loving toward, and eternally appreciative of those that raised a person. Of course, in cases of neglect or abuse, it is understandable if an individual has an unkind thing or two to say about a parent, but for the most part, there is no excuse to speak ill of or treat one's parents poorly.

Everyone's parents can drive (and has driven) them nuts. Constant nagging about chores, school, and homework; asking about friends, teachers, and weekly schedules; refusing to let you out of the house in *that* outfit, or not wanting to loan you the car in high school; not buying you the latest and coolest things that everyone else has, or lecturing you on what to and what not to do in any given situation, whatever other countless situations and annoyances at the hands of a parent have momentarily plagued a household, each one has come from a place of care, compassion, curiosity, amazement, interest, worry, and, ultimately, love. When hormones are raging, frustrations are high, or time is of the essence, it's easy to get caught up in feelings of resentment or discontent over most often the smallest of things; but, is there any feeling worse than realizing later that you were unnecessarily mean to your mom and dad? Trust me, you're not always right (and this is coming from someone who always argues she is!)

When forming a new friendship or growing in a new relationship with any person, if you're not feeling awkward or know the person vaguely, then don't be afraid to ask questions like "So, what do your parents do?" or "How are your parents?" but if not, then actively listening to the other person's stories and anecdotes about their favorite memories, or even something that had happened just the day before, you can learn a lot.

A general rule of thumb is it can be pretty quickly determined what kind of person you're dealing with based on what first few topics they touch on in conversation with you. If the response is expletive-filled or laced with bitterness or indignation, without any apology or explanation, then chances are that there is little respect or regard present for those that have consistently done their best for that person for a great portion of their lives. If the response is warm, complementary, respectful, and most grateful, those qualities can likely set the tone for the way that the individual speaks of others in general.

So when it comes to determining whether to be friends with or to be in a relationship with someone, why does all of this matter? In short, because how they treat the people who love them most is how they will most likely treat you in whatever relationship you form with them. Numerous psychological studies have begun to take a deeper look at this, and have come to find that the Familiarity Principle of Attraction is one of the primary reinforcers of this idea. These studies have revealed that humans are attracted to what is most familiar, that repeated exposure only increases that attraction, and that this is due to the comfort, security, or safety that we may feel when around someone who emanates a loved one.

Not only may we be physically attracted to those that seem familiar, but also to behavior that is as well. Various case studies, however, have also shown that this may not always be a good thing. For example, it has been noted that individuals who grew up with one or more alcoholic parent tend to be attracted to partners with alcoholic tendencies, too. This is not because that quality is necessarily desirable or attractive, but it is familiar to that person. Similarly, women who have difficult relationships with their fathers, or boys who have issues with their mothers, tend to become friends with or romantically involved with individuals who treat them in a similar manner as that parent.

Of course, sociocultural, environmental, other psychological, and preference-based factors also come into play when determining who we see fit to spend our time with, but each person's life and personality was built on a foundation established by the teachings of family members, friends, mentors, and teachers. Listening to how an individual talks about these influential figures, how he or she may act around them, or how that person treats or considers them can tell you a lot more than you think. You deserve the world, so choose wisely.

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