Instead Of Getting Played By Guys, Join In On Their Game

Instead Of Getting Played By Guys, Join In On Their Game

Be the coach of the game, not a player.


Boys these days love playing a good game. It's what they consider "talking" now. So the question I want to answer is how to avoid being played and actually end up the winner of the game.

The most important thing to remember is to not trust all the words coming out of a guy's mouth because most of the time it's just diarrhea spilling it out of it. Guys find amusement in playing mind games with us girls and making us think their intentions are much more genuine than they really are.

To prevent getting played, you have to consider life one big chess game.

Know your next two moves ahead and your partners. That is vital to winning the game they love playing. For guys, if it isn't official, there's nothing stopping them from going out and dogging. A part of their game is making the girl see a future with the guy she'll be with him while he can dog.

One of my guy friends told me that he used to go to sleep at night knowing what's going to happen next and knowing the girl can't do anything to prevent what's going to happen next because they just don't know what's going to happen.

I had this guy over the summer who I thought would end up being my boyfriend but in the end, I just got played.

I expected those three months of flirting to blossom into something more but it ended up just being a summer fling. The guy made it seem like he really liked me, he even told me he loved me. But his words definitely didn't reciprocate his actions. He was leading me on the whole summer about us getting into a relationship just so I would blow every other guy off and just talk to him.

He played me really well, I'll give him that.

Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because it taught me so much and now I can be the coach in the game, not just a mere player or victim.

To play the game back is a complete mind game. You have to make the guy want you and make him jealous. You have to make him unable to sleep at night knowing you're out.

He will always think you're with other guys and that will mess him up mentally. Playing the game is something you have to really be mentally prepared for. You can't give up even if the guy tries something. Imagine you're about to get something from someone but right before it's handed to you, you say something and ruin it for yourself... How would you feel? Pretty stupid, right?

That's what you have to do to guys. Right before things go down you have to bring something up or say something that he'll have a stupid answer to which will kill the vibe of doing something sexual. This will lead the guy to go home feeling stupid and having the intention to hit you up to try again. This will put him in your pocket. You have to throw the guy off his game.

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21 Reasons You Should Date Someone Who Was A Camp Counselor

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1. They shop at Goodwill mostly... low maintenance you could say?

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2. They are pretty awesome at talking to parents... opening days have given good practice for them. Give them 15 minutes and they will become best friends with your parents.

3. Their best friends actually are long you can wait a while to meet their besties who will want to know everything about you and make sure your intentions are good.

4. They have learned how to look decently presentable without showering for a week... maybe may or may not like this one.

5. They are always down for adventure... sure let's hike for eight miles uphill in the middle of the week!

6. They know what it is like to be woken up at 2 a.m. because someone wet their bed... mom training.

7. They also know how to give the "modest is hottest" talk to the teenage campers... and will help give you a classy future daughter.

8. Building fires is their hidden talent... if you ever get stuck on a deserted island with them they can help you.

9. Animal shirts are a common clothing item... they know how to have fun.

10. They throw killer dance parties... ones your grandma would approve of.

11. They are used to being publicly embarrassed for others (their campers') enjoyment... and usually can take a joke or prank well.

12. They also know how to prank you back... summer camp prepares you for awesome prank wars.

13. If you want to see her with no makeup on just look at her camp photos... natural beauty?

14. They actually love children... they chose to spend a whole summer loving other people's kids; imagine how awesome they will treat their own.

15. Chances are they are a really fun person and will bring out your inner child... yes, climb that random tree and paint your face because it is Wednesday.

16. Their "real job" will come later in life... they will end up being successful. Most employers love to hire former counselors, so it is not a waste of a summer.

17. They know how to hide their favorites in life really well... so if they choose to date you they are basically saying you are their favorite and that is a big deal to them.

18. They have learned how to eat unhealthy food every day for a whole summer and stay in shape... or try to at least.

19. They also are obviously not a diva when it comes to material needs...they went a whole summer without even air conditioning and never complained.

20. If they love you anything like they love their campers your needs will always be put first...they are some of the most selfless people you will ever meet.

21. They love God, living for Him, and have already made a difference in many children's lives... they are the real MVPS.

If you are still looking for a place to work this summer and love adventure, Jesus, and children, apply for Camp Crestridge for Girls; they still have many positions available. I'll be there so you should too!

If you are a boy apply for Camp Ridgecrest for Boys!

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You've Heard Of 'How To Be Single,' But Let's Talk About 'How To Be Romantic'

For some of us, it takes work to be cutesy and romantic.


Okay, I'm probably the least romantic person anyone has ever met. Not to say that I'm a bad girlfriend or that I'm not caring. I just find love in simple things like knowing what to order for them at restaurants, doing their laundry, planning unique dates, or cooking for them. It's not that I'm opposed to being arduous, I've just never been a chocolate and flowers kind of girl. I'm more of a Mongolian hot pot and "let's walk across the Brooklyn Bridge!" kind of girl. I appreciate some effort, tailoring something to fit a person's idiosyncratic personality or general spontaneity, not how flowery something looks. Not saying that I'm not feminine, I'm just my own entity, so to speak, and that translates into my love life. Needless to say, I thought I should learn how the other half lives, so I've challenged myself to take a course on being a classic/hopeless romantic just to understand how others think and who knows I might change some of my habits!

1. Leave notes

I think it's a really cute and simple idea that I will try to do because it makes everything very personal.

2. Write them a poem

I've had this done for me but I've never actually done it, because believe it or not, I didn't like to read or write poems up until this year.

3. Cuddling

Okay, so I'm not a cuddler, I have no idea why — it's more or less a personal space and attachment issue, I guess. I love hugs though! I guess I just have to be in the mood to cuddle and at times I can be. Other times it just makes me nervous.

4. Dedicate a song to them on the radio

It seems like the people on the radio that do this are crazy in love and honestly, to be able to have the ability to go on the radio and just declare your love for someone else is really inspiring.

5. Surprise them!

I personally cannot stand surprises, but I love to surprise other people and just be spontaneous, so I sort of do this already.

6. Carve your names into a tree

I've thought about doing this, but I've never got around to it, so I promise one day I will.

7. Go see a romantic movie

Nope, nope, I'll barf! Not happening, strictly horror movies for this girl, sorry!

8. Make them a care package

See, this makes me think a lot about what really defines romantic, because I do this all the time, but I don't consider it romantic, I just think it's sweet.

9. Take a walk on the beach together

I've done this, but I have to be doing this while looking for seashells or I feel like I'll be bored.

10. Make a CD for them


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