The other day I took a personality test and I was informed that I am 93% introverted and 7% extroverted. Honestly, I don't think it was that accurate... 7% seems like a lot.
As you can tell from the other article I wrote on being an introvert, I'm quite passionate about this topic. This is an aspect of my personality that I've struggled with my entire life, and I'm sure fellow introverts can relate. The most recent challenge I've had to face is being an introvert in college. Back in August, I started as a freshman at Hastings College and I'll tell you what, these past few months have been some of the most challenging months of my life. Socially.
So, as your local, friendly introvert, I want to guide you through surviving college as an introvert. I'll give you a quick five tips to keep in your pocket whenever you are in doubt.
1. Ignore the Pressure
I know, easier said than done, but trust me on this. It's inevitable that someone will ask you to hang out over the weekend or late into the night when you really, really don't want to. I'm talking about those days when you've been going to class all day, you're exhausted and ready to lay in bed for a few hours and just watch Netflix. Alone. This will happen more than you think it will. Here's the best thing to say: "no." Or if you unfortunately happen to care for this other person's feelings and don't want to be rude you could say: "not tonight, but thank you." Either way, you aren't giving into the pressure for being obligated to hang out. Hanging out should never be an obligation. You aren't going to miss out on the 'college experience' by staying in a few Friday nights. Take care of yourself first.
2. Find Places Devoid of People
Now this is truly a hard feat, especially if you have a roommate. I suggest you make yourself comfortable in the encyclopedia section of the library or under an abundantly-branched tree. These people-less places come few and far between in college, there will be times when you panic in realization that no matter where you go, there will always be people. Don't fret. If you and your roommate are cool, set up a time when you can have the dorm to yourself (or if you aren't cool, memorize their class schedule so you can have the dorm when they are in class). And remember you can always escape in your car or on a long walk.
3. Help Your Friends At Home Understand
Chances are you have friends at home that you really want to keep in touch with, but again, don't feel obligated to talk with them all the time. Hopefully, you are at the stage in your relationship where they understand your introverted needs (and if they don't then sorry to say but you need new friends, hun). Take a moment to explain to them that you won't be able to keep up on the group chat 24/7, that even texting drains the introverted mind. They will always understand, don't feel like you'll lose them as friends if you go MIA for a while.
4. Don't Be Afraid to Eat by Yourself
Ah, the cafeteria. A toxic cesspool of social commitment and communal judgment. For centuries, the kid who eats alone at lunch has been the 'weird kid'. Let's break that stereotype once and for all. The kid who sits alone at lunch doesn't need a friend group to feel comfortable. They don't need a bud to feel like they belong. They're independent, beautiful butterflies who are finally spreading their wings and flying into the land of ultimate freedom and social independence. Be the kid who eats alone at lunch. Bring a book, or simply judge everyone from afar (like they are you). Be confident, it's precious time alone.
5. Don't Psych Yourself Out
This is for more of the socially awkward introverts such as myself. College can be intimidating in forming relationships, especially if you're an introvert who is going to a college that none of your friends are attending. Making new friends can be a hard skill to learn, one that might not come naturally to all. Sometimes, I find myself letting my introverted tendencies be an excuse for not talking to someone I want to be friends with (sooo many friend crushes). Honestly, being an introvert and going to college is the bravest thing anyone could do. You're brave, so go talk to that person you want to. Introverts can be friendly, remember that. You might even find a fellow introvert. Now wouldn't that be cool?
Go forth my friends, go find success in this extroverted world. You can do it, just take care of yourself and don't be afraid to say "no." Even if it's to yourself.
