In pop culture right now, there is a term going around which people seem to have adopted as an endearing personality trait, rather than the hurtful behavior it is. It's claimed and flaunted like a crown, while the subjects of it have to deal with the pain it brings. It's considered "justified" if the other person did something mean or inconsiderate first. The act of being "petty" has gone way too far and we need to take a step back from it to realize just how hurtful it can be in any relationship.

Pettiness comes in many forms, however I've realized that it can carry the same effect any way it's displayed. Whether it's going off on someone in sarcastic anger, being in a sour mood whenever you're around them, or choosing to deliberately ignore their apology because you're too upset about what they did in the first place... pettiness may feel like it's justified or deserved in the moment, but does it ever actually solve the problem? In my experience, being petty about something does nothing but make the situation worse.

I'm not saying I've never been petty towards a friend or in a relationship, because Lord knows I'm as guilty of this as anyone else. However, it's from this place that I can learn and confidently say that pettiness is NOT a form of self-respect, nor is it right, nor should it be tolerated as "cute" or acceptable in our society. In any relationship, growth cannot be fostered through pent-up emotions and the silent treatment, or on the complete opposite end of the "petty" spectrum, calling someone out in anger. Communication truly is key in developing a good relationship, and when there is none or when all the communication exists of is sarcasm and bickering, how can there be growth? Do we honestly expect our own cynicism to make us or the other person feel any better? What do we really think will happen by choosing to let our own negative emotions be the ruling force?

I, for one, am tired of pettiness being shamelessly exhibited and used on a daily basis. It causes massive destruction in communication when there could be resolve, it calls into question all the trust and love that was put into a relationship, and it does nothing but cause pain on both sides. Can you just imagine what could happen if instead of being petty, we chose to adopt forgiveness and humility? Crazy concept, I know, but it's one that just might end up saving everyone a lot of heartache and maybe even saving a few relationships, as well. Pettiness is a fleeting satisfaction that can only do you harm in the long run, so the next time you find yourself wanting to be cynical, ask yourself is it really worth it?