This is for the person that feels as if they have to be liked. This is to those people who think that they have to win everyone over, even if they know that they never will. I know how it feels; I am you. I know what it’s like whenever you meet someone, and you feel as if you won’t feel accomplished until you get them to like you. I’ve been in that place more times than I can count.
I’ll tell you straight up; sometimes people won’t you. It may not even be your fault; they may not even have a logical reason that they don’t like you. You could be the nicest, most sincere person, but the person could’ve heard things about you before meeting you, could perceive “bad vibes” from you that they just don’t want to be around. There are so many reasons as to why a person may not like you. Even the tiniest of reasons change their mind. Though I have been in the position one too many times where I have heard that someone didn’t like me and I began to freak out, I have now learned I wasted so much time on it. I’m sure that many of you have been in the same position, whether you want to admit it or not. I’ll say personally that the feeling of being disliked sucks, and it makes you feel like a failure.
But don’t worry, you’re not.
Once you realize that you shouldn’t stress over your failures, and you shouldn’t spend a great deal of time on those that don’t want to be in your life in the first place, you will prosper. You can definitely continue to bring other people into your life, you just have to remember the fact that not everyone will like you, and that is okay. Everyone has their own opinion, even if at times you think they’re wrong, you can’t force people to do anything that they don’t want to in the first place. Plus, why would you ever want someone in your life that doesn’t want to be there? That would be like bringing one of your anti-social friends to a party and forcing them to have a good time when they don’t want to be there then getting mad at them and upset when they don’t like the party that they didn’t want to be at in the first place. The basis of this metaphor is the fact that you can’t force people to do things in life that they don’t want to do. All that will happen is the arising of pure dread and negativity brought into the situation.
All that is needed in your life is positivity, and that will not happen if you force people into your life. You need to let life happen and not stress over it. I know that it sounds difficult now, but once you accept that your life will get by having people who want to be by your side, you’ll have people who actually want to be in your life, and that is all that matters.
People may not like you. People may not want to be in your life. However, I promise none of that matters because your life is going to be great with or without them, and it’s their loss anyway.
