After graduating High School, I have quickly learned that it is true when people say you won't see your friends as much as opposed to every day in high school. In my case, I still see some of my best friends now because we go to same college. And I still get to see my other best friend that goes to a different college but we have to plan at least a week in advance to make sure we both have a clear schedule. It's frustrating at times when you can't see some of your friends but it's understandable. But, I also had those "friends" who chose to walk out of my life when I really needed them. In case you're in a situation that involves someone you cared about walking out on you, then this letter can probably relate to how you feel whether it was a family member or a friend. So, here's to that person from all of us who cared:
First off, thank you. After several years of friendship, after the laughs and tears, thank you. Thank you for leaving. Your decision to leave was probably the only good decision you've ever made in your life, for both of us. It's actually exhausting being the friend that was there for you 110% when you weren't there for me for even 1%. It sucks, a lot. You see, it's kind of hard to forget about someone after years of friendship so I'm sorry if you were hoping I had forgotten about you already. It's been almost a year since we last spoke. Guess you really stuck to your decision about leaving me behind. That's okay. I forgave you the last time we spoke. My life has actually improved since you left. Go figure, right? You wanna know the best thing about college life so far? The friends I've made are willing to eat lunch with me, be there for me, help me with anything that's going on in my life. I even have this friend who found out I wasn't doing so good in one of my classes and offered to help me study and quizzes me randomly just to make sure I haven't forgot any material. Now, I've only known these people a couple of months. But even in these short months, ALL of them have done more for me than you ever did in the years of our friendship. Understandingly, there is only so much you can as a "friend" do but you never even seemed to bother.
Being a very protective person of myself, my friends and family, I am the kind of person that would drop everything in order to be there for any of them. So, there's your first lesson in being a good friend because apparently, you need it. All of my friends teach me things without even realizing it. My best friend, Genesis, taught me about God and what it's like to be a Christian. My best friend, Megan, teaches me about photography and how there's a lot more to it than just pressing a button. My best friend Hannah teaches me about being organized because God knows that I am not an organized person. But you taught me how to cut people off. After you left, I created boundaries. I had trust issues with everybody I met. I slowly started drifting away from my friends for a while just because I was scared to trust too much. I was scared that everybody I cared about was gonna leave me. I pushed everybody away that I became too comfortable with. But honestly, it's the best lesson I've learned. I was able to leave friends behind that didn't deserve me as a friend, that didn't deserve me in their life. I am happy with all of my best friends, friends, and my family I have in my life right now. Because I know for a fact that they would never leave me the way you did. I am finally at the point to realizing you never deserved me in your life. You don't deserve a second of my thoughts any longer. I hope you're doing well and wish you luck for the rest of your life without me.
Sincerely,
A Stranger
