That person.
I feel like we all have that one person that you'll always sort of have feelings for. You don't necessarily like them anymore, but if given the chance to be with them, you'd do it in a heartbeat. I've said it once and I'll say it time and time again... why does it seem like the people you like never like you back? It's a struggle we've all faced, but getting over that person you never even dated can seem weird to others. But it's not weird. It's a very human emotion to feel connected to someone even if you never had a chance to be in a relationship with them.
For me, that one person and I were never more than good friends.
And while it totally sucks that you never get to tell that person how you feel, you can find solace in the fact that if it was meant to be it would've happened. There's no need to be obsessive or overthink their every action because chances are they have absolutely no clue that you feel that way about them. There are times when I see pictures of that person, and I get sad that I'm not with them, but I feel better knowing that they are happy and so am I.
If you have that one person, you feel as though you need some type of closure. I'm going to be honest with you, there's a very slim chance that you'll ever get that. Let's face it... you weren't dating. There was no huge fight leading to a breakup, nobody cheated on anybody, and somehow you still feel hurt that they never chose you. That's what stings. When someone chooses you, everything is okay in the world, but when they don't you feel like your heart might shatter. I can't tell you how many times mine did when that person picked somebody else. However, it doesn't make you any less of a person simply because they didn't want to be with you. Everything happens for a reason.
Maybe you never truly ever get over that one person. You have to do what makes you feel okay again. If that means keeping in contact with them, do it! If it means cutting them off entirely, then pull a T-Swift and tell them that the old you is dead!!! The possibility of what might have been is nice to daydream about, believe me. The factor of the "what if" makes getting over that person seem almost harder than it would in an established relationship. I always think "What if we had dated?" "Did he ever like me?" "Could we ever be more than friends" I've thought about it for the past two years, but it doesn't make matters any better..seriously.
If you're still getting over that person, distract yourself! Hang out with friends, exercise, read a book, listen to music, do the things that make you the most happy. In the end, you'll find the person that chooses you, and that's what will matter most!
