Have you ever had a special moment when you met someone and you knew they were going to be a part of your life for a long time?

You guys have so much in common, you feel excited whenever their name is brought up and could recite all their best stories. Maybe it wasn’t love at first sight, but I definitely found “my” fraternity.

I rock my Free People and booties as much as any college girl, but I am a tom-boy at heart. I grew up with a brother, so I always felt more comfortable and protected among men. Don’t get me wrong, my sorority sisters are so important to me, but having a group of guys you feel just as comfortable with is what has made my college experience even more enjoyable.

Just like your sorority or group of girlfriends, it is nice to know there is a group of men who have your back. Whether it is a walk home, a futon to sleep on or even that Wednesday night you set aside for a whole semester for “squad bonding,” they were there. I believe it is just as important to find brothers, as it is sisters. You can’t literally become a brother of their fraternity (trust me, I’ve tried), but it is awesome to have a second place where you can just show up or stay over all night and feel welcome. It is having a sense of comfort.

Now in my junior year, a couple of my friends and I are still the go-to girls in the group message when people want to set something up with the fraternity. I like to have friends in multiple chapters but I am still there all of the time because I feel the most comfortable.

You know the moments when you are with your friends, but no one’s really saying anything but you are still having a good time? That is how comfortable it is to me. I feel perfectly fine just sitting back and laughing at their stories.

One of my favorite memories happened when I was getting to know them as a freshman. I was at one of their houses and was visibly not having a great time. While there was a party going on upstairs, a few of the guys and I checked-out downstairs, heated up some edamame and vented about what was going on in our lives. At first, it was funny to learn men have some of the same problems as women and they actually want to talk about them. I have learned those are the guys who are really going to be my friend and not all men are the “frat boys” your mom warned you about.

When you join a sorority there are moments when you can feel like you are in a bubble and you are absorbing the different views and perspectives women have without realizing it. I wasn’t sure who I was yet.

I didn’t have a lot of close girlfriends in high school so at first I was scared to get to know the women in my sorority. Will they like me? Will I like them? These were the questions running through my mind constantly and after talking to the men in this fraternity, I knew I was exactly where I was supposed to be.

I am proud of my chapter and being in a sorority is one of the most special things I have ever experienced, but having family throughout the Greek system has made the ride so much more rewarding. I learned my forever friends were not just in my sorority but also in my fraternity and in other chapters on Greek row. To the fraternity men reading this, get to know some different women. Not all sorority girls want endless attention, the song "Closer" by The Chainsmokers on repeat and for you to take pictures of them on your Snapchat.

Find your friends.

So with this being said, don’t limit yourself. Do not be afraid to find friends in other places or get close to a fraternity. Maybe you even have two fraternities or are even so cool you are keeping up with six, but you found your friends and you found your fraternity.