As women get older, we start to realize what we actually want in the man of our dreams. We change our views on the different types of individuals we could see ourselves with for a long period of time.
Those that ended up breaking hearts or having hearts broken soon learn that there are plenty of more fish in the sea. Maybe it was timing, or maybe trust was broken, but something led you to not be together.
Maybe he was younger and was so intimidated by your grace that things just couldn't fall into place. Or maybe he just couldn't get into the bars.
Here's why dating older men is just as much fun for you as it is for them:
The conversation is different
I'm not talking 20 years older, but two or three could definitely change interest in what you're talking about.
Talking to a guy about a frat party or how many beers they bonged last weekend... It's all fun and fine, but after awhile you start looking for something a little deeper in meaning.
After dating guys a few years older than me I started to realize that they were all focused on value. Things, people, even certain drinks. What their dreams are, or how much their family means to them. I was suddenly talking about things I actually want to talk about with someone I'm on a date with.
The cookie-cutter, "What's your favorite color?" was left at home, and I was talking about my family and friends from my hometown and why they mean so much to me.
Suddenly, dry humor is an actual thing again and they enjoy when you laugh about small things. Being yourself is fun to them because chances are, they already knew what they were getting into taking out someone younger than them.
They've had experience
The nice thing about dating someone a few years older than you is that they've been through the same things you have. Maybe with a few twists and turns, but in general they know the hands that have been dealt.
You can talk to them about about job searches or what to add to your resume for it to be successful.
You can also talk about moving out of state and discuss if it really is a life-changing experience, because maybe they already know about it.
They've been through the dating process longer than you have, they know what they're looking for and they also won't stop until they find it.
They'll be straightforward with you and not be the one to use the emoji kiss face unless they mean it.
They are focused on success
The kind of success that doesn't have a one stop destination. When they achieve milestones, there are already five more ahead that they plan to make throughout the years.
They can tell you steps they've taken to get them to where they are in their career, or their family's timeline in the most casual way without it being totally forced.
The most business-savvy of men know how to leave work at home while knowing how to talk about it humbly.
Another perk of older men might be that they work out. I don't know anyone that's complained about being lifting buddies with a six-pack hottie. They'll push you and motivate you to become the best that you can be, just as they do with themselves.
Truly, their success when dating you is just dating you. No ultimatum behind it.
Social media isn't a thing for them
They aren't totally into social media and usually complain about it in the first place.
The drunk Snapchat stories are old news to them, but they understand when a night out with the girls means a complete night out with the girls. Although, an every weekend occurrence might send them in the opposite direction.
They wont complain about you not tweeting them back and they won't even attempt to try to DM you Twitter-style.
They have standards
The kind of guys that stick out are the ones who know the lady they want and are able to stick to it. Maybe not the specific lady, but they know what they want in one.
They'll do the one-night stands with the desperate girl who wears less than her heart on her sleeve, but they'll forget about her the very next day.
They're into girls that respect themselves but of course are able to let loose and have fun, too. They don't expect one-night-stands from the one's they have their eye on and they don't think twice about trying.
And if they do, they learn. Forgive them, but guys have needs too.
Dating a few years older might not sound like a bad idea after all, right?
