When you're in a long-term relationship, doing things becomes really different, and it's something you adjust to. But becoming single, you have to do the same thing all over again. Honestly, when I became single nine months ago, I learned to enjoy getting to do a few things.
1. Going shopping alone.
Yes, technically you could do this before. However, now you spend a lot more time alone when you aren't with your friends. So, on a Saturday afternoon when all your friends are busy, getting to run to the mall alone is a treat.
You can go exactly where you want and basically get in and get out. You don't have someone following you around just waiting for you to be done. You can actually enjoy your time.
2. Less texting.
Now trust me, I have friends who text me a lot. I have friends I talk to daily. But when you're in a relationship, although I know some aren't like this, you have your someone who wants to talk to you and know what you are doing always.
This is okay, but honestly, I hate small talk and pointless conversations via text message. This is a saving grace for me.
3. Spending less money.
Now, don't get me wrong, I love buying gifts for people. Shopping for people... the whole thing. There are times when I see something I know my friends would like and get it just because. But in a relationship, you have birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, and Valentine's Day.
All those things add up very quickly. So, being single, I get to buy for the only birthdays I want to buy for and, at Christmas, only for people I want to buy for.
4. Going out worry-free.
Now, I know there are going to be people who don't agree with this, and that is totally fine. I get that. Everyone is different. However, there are times when, while in a relationship, I've felt completely guilty going out with my friends without my S.O.
Then, they are constantly texting you, and there is always the flip. Your S.O. goes out without you and you worry. Now, I'm worry-free. I go out with my friends with no issues or second thoughts and have the best time.
5. Making myself happy.
I'm a people pleaser. I love making the people I love and the people who are important to me happy. But that often has me putting my own happiness in the backseat.
The last few months of being single, I've gotten to focus on myself, do everything for myself, and make myself the happiest I've ever been. Sometimes, making other people happy is great, but making yourself happy is even better.
To all my newly single gals out there, whether you parted ways from a toxic relationship, broke up with someone you just weren't happy with, or got your heart broken by some boy, I hope these things give you peace of mind and make you realize it's hard, but it's not all bad.
To all my fellow single gals, I hope you agree that these are some of the things that are making it so much easier now. I hope you're enjoying single life just like me.
We're all great, it won't last long.
