Father’s Day used to be tough for me; I was reminded of the day my dad left, and whether I admit it that it hurts or not, I had to recognize the reality of the situation. Before I used to dread Father's Day, because I didn’t have my father around, while everyone was celebrating their loving, caring fathers, I was questioning what I did to deserve to lose mine.
This year, I recognize a different reality. I may not have my biological father in my life, but I have the greatest support system, who have not only filled the void of my father’s absence but nearly erased that void. I’m sorry it took me so long to realize how truly wonderful you all are, but it’s about time I thank the people in my life who stepped up when my father stepped down.
To my brothers: it may seem weird to say happy Father’s Day since you are all so young, and have yet to have children of your own -- but growing up without a father, you three stepped into the role quite well. You were always there to kill spiders, screw in light bulbs and to teach me about beer. You’re my protectors and some of my greatest role models. I know that without question you’ll be there for me no matter what, just like you have been time and time again.
To my grandfather: Grandpa, I can’t even put into words how thankful I am for you. First of all, thank you for raising my mother to be such a strong, wonderful, independent woman. Second of all, thank you for every thing you do. Thank you for always being there to talk to, for making me laugh, and thank you for your never-ending love and friendship. You’re always there to help, even if it inconveniences you. You are the true definition of a family man, and the best father (even if you and mom don’t always see eye to eye) and grandfather a girl could ask for.
To my uncles: they say “it takes a village to raise a child” and you three proved that to be true. When my dad walked out, you guys stepped up. I will be forever grateful for all the times you took us out to eat, to the mall, and drove me and my friends around through my preteen years. A lot of people are surprised by how close I am with my uncles, and how much you all do for me. You guys may not be father’s yourself, but you all helped shape who I am today and I will be forever grateful for all of your love and assistance even if at times I don’t seem like I appreciate you, know that I do and always will.
To my step-dad: this one is self-explanatory. The day you came into our life, my world was forever changed. You have taught me what it’s like to have a father who wants you, who loves you, and who will never leave. Thank you for never letting me go a day without telling me you love me, thank you for putting time and effort into our relationship and most importantly thank you for simply being the man my mother deserves, as well as the father my siblings and I deserve.
To my mother: for years, you played the role of both mother and father to your five children. Thank you for being so strong, even when it wasn’t easy. Thank you for teaching me the value of independence and teaching me that I don’t need a man to save me. Thank you for teaching me that family always comes first, no matter the situation. Thank you for loving me despite my flaws, and always being my biggest fan. We’ve had the highest of highs and lowest of lows together, and I can’t imagine a life different than the one we were given. You give us your all even when you have nothing left to give. You have been my biggest supporter, and the greatest mother anyone could ever ask for.
