Upon the glory filled day of high school graduation, there is an immediate change. Suddenly you’re preparing to move out of the home you grew up in and leave your parents behind. A lot of nerves and mixed emotions may come with this, but adults especially will continue to preach to you, “College is the best (four) years of your life.” Some may tell you about how much they wish they could go back to these few years. The independence, the memories, the crazy stories of 2 am shenanigans; there are a lot of fun times. However, there are a lot of things people don’t tell you and that’s what I’m here to share.

I’m going to be honest, there’s a lot of stress. More or less depending on your major and classes. Personally, I am a nursing student in the honors program engaging in research on the mental health of foster children — So yeah, a lot. You will have mental breakdowns, you will procrastinate, you will struggle to stay afloat. But at the end of the day, you’re paying for this education, and realize it’s not supposed to be easy. College challenges you and prepares you for the workforce. College doesn’t give you a degree, you have to earn a degree from college. How much effort you put into your education is your choice. Hint: Try not to procrastinate and believe in yourself. You're the only person who got yourself to where you are, so prove that you deserve this.

Mom and Dad are no longer around to remind you to do your homework or study for your exam, which some students will struggle with. They aren’t around to convince you to clean your room or take out the trash. You’re now officially a “real adult” living on your own. As exciting as that can be, you deal with everything on your own. Which you may think to be fun that is until your food grows mold and there’s dust coating your books. It actually happens. Hint: Do your best to keep yourself clean and organized — and suggest your roommate do the same!

Finally, and definitely the worst, the fruit flies. You can clean up your room and take out the trash daily and not be a dirty human being, but they’ll still join you in your dorm. Every dorm on campus struggles with these and we’re not really sure why, but my dorm isn't the only one. Hint: If these, or anything else, are a problem for you, ask your parents for help. Parents have all the answers and understand that this is your first time with a lot of situations.

As a little disclaimer, I’m not complaining about my time at college. It truly has been the best time of my life, but that’s because I’ve learned to balance school and a social life and taking care of myself. This is probably one of the most important lessons you could possibly learn during your first semester of college. Once you figure out your path, follow it. Find yourself, and stay true to yourself. Put in the effort if you want the education.