Every person has gone out or will go out in their lifetime. Whether going out is going to a frat party, bar, or club every one usually has a group of friends to go with.College is a big time for going out and having fun with your friends, at least for those who wish to experience the party stage. That being said, every group of friends has the one friend they can always count on to go out and have fun with, a friend who will more than likely never say no to going out, the "party friend".
You and your friends always have a great time, you dance the night away, make memories you debate if you can ever truly tell anyone about, laugh until you cry and even pretend to be each other's significant other in the situation that you are faced with an unattractive person asking for one of your phone numbers. You guys form bonds and memories that last for years and years but what about your non-party memories? What about the memories that are okay to tell your future children?
Being the party friend has some great perks but it also has a lot more downfalls. Being the party friend everyone wants to see you and wants to hangout, unfortunately it's more than likely on the weekend or "Thirsty Thursday". Being the party friend is not all fun and games. Your social group looks to you as to what to do every time you guys go out and expects you to always feel the need to be hype and always party.
But where are those friends when you just want a movie night or want to go get lunch? Being the party friend can get pretty lonely. If you are the party friend you just want to have someone there to help you pick out cute clothes with or someone to eat a whole pizza and watch a Harry Potter marathon with and it sucks when your friends who are always asking you to join them turn down your invite for non-party like events.
If you are the party friend and feel as if your social group only thinks of you as such, change something. It doesn't mean that you have to limit how much you go out (if you do genuinely love going out) but just tell your friends that you feel that way. If your facebook is getting too full of tagged party photos and those friends aren't around on that Monday night where you just want to have a shoulder to cry on or someone to just hangout with just tell them your feelings. Try to set up a day to get lunch or a night to just stay in an see if that works if they still decline your invitations or do not acknowledge your feelings just remember that you are more than just the party friend. And start to stick with the people who think more of you and would love to stay in with you.
If you are not the party friend but read this article and thought of a party friend you may be neglecting a bit during the week or do not talk to enough, reach out to them and spend time with them. I promise you the party friend is way cool doing normal things just as well as partying (and you may love them more if you did normal things with them).
