I'm Not 'Missing Out' By Skipping College Parties, But You May Be Missing Out By Going To Them

I'm Not 'Missing Out' By Skipping College Parties, But You May Be Missing Out By Going To Them

I'm not sure when "sober fun" became an archaic concept, but we really need to stop shaming people who choose to live their lives against the college norms.

Everywhere you go on the internet you run into this idea of "missing out." Missing out because you had to study or missing out because you had to work or missing out just because.

I've never really understood that concept.

I don't go to college parties, and to be honest, never once have I felt like I was missing out on something because I'm not there.

What is there to miss out on, anyway?

A bunch of people who have had just a little too much packed together in an already cramped house? Yeah...sounds like a really good time...

I'm not sure when "sober fun" became an archaic concept, but we really need to stop shaming people who choose to live their lives against the college norms.

It's kind of odd if you really think about it. We're shaming people for deciding that paying thousands of dollars per a year for an education means that you actually care about the education.

In fact, every year there are 1,800 college students who die as a result of alcohol consumption. You may think, "oh that doesn't sound that bad if you think about how many college students are out there."

But to be quite honest, that number should absolutely terrify us.

It should terrify us that those 1,800 students weren't around anyone who could call for help when they showed the first signs of alcohol poisoning.

It should terrify us that the friends of those 1,800 students were also too drunk to know what was going on, didn't recognize what was going on or just plain downright ignored it.

So why are we still shaming students who choose to not go out and party for a good portion of their nights each week?

Who would willingly put themselves in that situation?

I know, I know, "it'll never happen to me."

Well, I bet that the 1,800 students who die every year never thought it would happen to them either.

Whether or not you choose to drink alcohol is up to you. Neither I or anyone else can really make that decision for you.

I get it, I know that 80 percent of college students drink in some capacity. I know it's considered a "college norm."

But it doesn't have to be a "norm" to see students dying from alcohol and to see 50 percent of college students participating in binge drinking and to see 20 percent of college students able to be classified as having an alcohol use disorder.

Fellow students, wake up. I'm sick and tired of hearing about alcohol-related incidents and deaths on our college campuses.

I'm sick and tired of hearing about how many students blacked out at a party.

What is the fun in that?

I'm certainly not missing out on everything college has to offer, but maybe, just maybe, you are.

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10 Things Someone Who Grew Up In A Private School Knows

The 10 things that every private school-goer knows all too well.


1. Uniforms

Plaid. The one thing that every private school-goer knows all too well. It was made into jumpers, skirts, shorts, scouts, hair ties, basically anything you could imagine, the school plaid was made into. You had many different options on what to wear on a normal day, but you always dreaded dress uniform day because of skirts and ballet flats. But it made waking up late for school a whole lot easier.

2. New people were a big deal

New people weren't a big thing. Maybe one or two a year to a grade, but after freshman year no one new really showed up, making the new kid a big deal.

3. You've been to school with most of your class since Kindergarten

Most of your graduating class has been together since Kindergarten, maybe even preschool, if your school has it. They've become part of your family, and you can honestly say you've grown up with your best friends.

4. You've had the same teachers over and over

Having the same teacher two or three years in a row isn't a real surprise. They know what you are capable of and push you to do your best.

5. Everyone knows everybody. Especially everyone's business.

Your graduating class doesn't exceed 150. You know everyone in your grade and most likely everyone in the high school. Because of this, gossip spreads like wildfire. So everyone knows what's going on 10 minutes after it happens.

6. Your hair color was a big deal

If it's not a natural hair color, then forget about it. No dyeing your hair hot pink or blue or you could expect a phone call to your parents saying you have to get rid of it ASAP.

7. Your school isn't like "Gossip Girl"

There is no eating off campus for lunch or casually using your cell phone in class. Teachers are more strict and you can't skip class or just walk right off of campus.

8. Sports are a big deal

Your school is the best of the best at most sports. The teams normally go to the state championships. The rest of the school that doesn't play sports attends the games to cheer on the teams.

9. Boys had to be clean-shaven, and hair had to be cut

If you came to school and your hair was not cut or your beard was not shaved, you were written up and made to go in the bathroom and shave or have the head of discipline cut your hair. Basically, if you know you're getting written up for hair, it's best just to check out and go get a hair cut.

10. Free dress days were like a fashion show

Wearing a school uniform every day can really drive you mad. That free dress day once a month is what you lived for. It was basically a fashion show for everyone, except for those upperclassmen who were over everything and just wore sweat pants.

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Coping With The Loss Of A Passion

It's hard to get it back once you lose it.


In college, time to focus on passions seems limited. The homework, essays, group projects, and exams are never-ending.

In high school, I took my free time for granted. I was dancing four hours four nights a week, but I wasn't constantly stressed. I had time to focus on my passion, which is dance.

In college, I am a part of an amazing dance club. But I don't get to compete, take technique classes, or be with the team I was with since I was 8 years old. Now, I receive videos of my team from home's amazing performances, and it aches a bit. I am so proud and happy for their growth but jealous that they have more years than I do. It is nearly impossible to find technique classes at college to take with no car, little free time, and barely any money. I miss my team, I miss my dance teachers and choreographers, and I miss competitions, but most of all, I miss the person I was when I had the opportunity to pursue my passion several hours a week.

My passion will always be there, and I do get to pursue dance on a smaller scale with some amazing dancers in college, but I am coping with the fact that I will never do another competition with my team again, I will never be able to dance with them again, and I will never be able to learn from my dance teachers again. It's a hard loss, one that I think about every day.

To anyone who still has the opportunities to pursue their passions to the fullest extent, you are lucky. Not everyone gets the chance to keep up with their sport, passion, or activity that they dedicated all of their time to in high school. Don't take a single second of it for granted, and remember why you are doing what you are doing. Take time to reflect on why you love it so much, how it makes you feel, and how you can express yourself during it. Whatever this passion or activity is, make every second count.

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