There is a point, in all of our lives, where we try to find a purpose for ourselves or one another. We want to know what it means by 'living life to the fullest.' We look at the timeline of our lives and compare the past with the future, even though we don't know what our future holds for us yet. Every single one of us has a different view on life, but as Oprah Winfrey says:
We should all take the same adventure: pursuing our dreams. How can we get through life knowing there are so many unanswered possibilities without something to build off of first? Maybe our friends will help us along the way or even our siblings, but I don't believe there is a better mentor than our parents.
When I struggle or lose faith in myself, the only person who can help me is my father.
My dad has always told me to never say anything is "hard " or "challenging." He has taught me to admit I am not being ambitious enough or if I do not want to do something, he told me to get up and work for it, but told me to never say "I can't do it."
My mom, on the other hand, teaches me to laugh and gives me the most brutal, but truthful life lessons.
My mother has never been wrong about her life lessons, and if I decide not to listen to her or find it "annoying," I face my own consequences later. Friends can come and go, but they will never share the love our parents have for us.
There is no denying that bad parenting exists and many kids go through torture every day, under their roof. Whether it is abuse or plain selfishness, those parents have most likely had their parents to be terrible role models for them. In this scenario, the children have the responsibility to provide a different legacy and bring their kids up to the best of their ability.
Even if it takes decades or even generations, there will be a parent who puts their kids above everything else and takes the time to teach them what life has to offer and to always value it no matter what happens. Being seen as a "bad parent" is taken too far by many kids. They take little time to figure out what that actually means and instead they are blinded by pessimism.
I feel like there is no such thing as a naturally corrupt family just like there is no such thing as a parent being a "naturally" bad role model because our relationships with our parents are made in our hearts and we cannot forget that.
Learning the values of life, how to be successful, and constantly being motivated by our parents is all that we need, but proper guidance is something that can never be missed.
My parents have always told me that, in order to survive in this world of competition and fear, I must learn from every mistake I made and keep improving myself every day.
We all face frustration and even when we feel as if we do not need our parents' guidance anymore, we know that we will feel more fulfilled when they help us make decisions and grow. Being independent is important but being open to all the suggestions our parents give us for life is not any less meaningful.
Once we graduate high school and go to college, the purpose is not to think of ourselves as mature adults who do not need their parents anymore.
The focus is to use everything our parents have ever taught us and lead ourselves in the right direction.
No one will share the same type of love our parents have for us, and even though bad parenting exists, it is often taken too far because without the correct guidance we need for life, we cannot take those small steps to satisfaction and fulfillment.
We don't have a reason to complain about our parents to our friends or say something to prevent humiliation because our friends did not spend their entire lives building up our lives.
No one in the world will inspire me like my father and no one will ever give me more happiness than my mother. No one will ever teach me to believe in myself or how I am capable of doing things that I never knew I could do than my own parents.
I will not value anyone more than my two role models because of the ultimate effect they had on me throughout my lifetime.