To The Girl Who Said I Can't Put 'Spoiled' On My Resume, Take 'Bitter' Off Yours

To The Girl Who Said I Can't Put 'Spoiled' On My Resume, Take 'Bitter' Off Yours

Sure, I can't put being spoiled on my resume... but you can't put being bitter on yours, either.
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Before I start, let me get something straight. I'm not spoiled, but I am well taken care of.

I'm sorry that the fact that my father pays my college tuition in full and wants me to have as much study time as possible "infuriates" you.

So, let me enlighten you, my parents providing for me in college doesn't define my character.

While I'm home during the summer, I work. We have a farm and a family business. I also umpire and work at other local places. So, trust me, I know the meaning of hard work and money just as well as you and the next guy.

You've had a job since you were 16 years old, I've had a job since I was 14 years old. But my "Mommy and Daddy" pay for a majority of the things I do. Especially my needs.

I worked Fridays and Saturday nights, too, but I also had enough free time to go to football games and hang out with my friends while I was in high school.

I must ask you this... why are you upset that kids have parents who give them everything? I'll be honest, when I have kids and a family I'm going to bust my butt to make sure my kids are happy and have everything they need to be successful.

They won't miss out on high school experiences to work some 4-10 job at Subway for their entire high school career. They'll be too busy enjoying the tail end of their childhood, playing sports, participating in the yearbook club, the mathlete club, or whatever it may be that they want to join.

My goal in life is to be as financially stable as possible, so if I want to buy my kids concert tickets, name brand clothes, or give them a few extra dollars for getting good grades... you best believe I am going to.

Kids are allowed to be stressed about things, no matter what it is. Telling someone what they can and cannot be upset about, or measuring the difficulty of their life by what it looks like, isn't fair. Maybe they aren't working an 8-hour shift and waking up at 5 a.m. to get ready for school the next day, but they may be studying as hard as they can for a test, getting a sufficient amount of rest to play in a game the next day (a game that could potentially pay for their college career), or struggling with something else outside of school that you are totally unaware of.

Don't shame me or anyone else because we are well supported by our parents. There is nothing wrong with that what so ever. That's what parents are supposed to do. If it wasn't for the great parenting that I had growing up, especially in my last two years of high school, I wouldn't be who I am today — a successful, hardworking, college attending young woman. I learned to have self-discipline, manners, and respect at a young age... the amount of money that my parents supplied me with had nothing to do with it.

So sure, I cannot put "spoiled" on my resume for previous job experience... but I can say that you can't put being bitter on yours, either.

Cover Image Credit: Macey Mullins

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31 Reasons Why I Would NEVER Watch Season 2 Of '13 Reasons Why'

It does not effectively address mental illness, which is a major factor in suicide.
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When I first started watching "13 Reasons Why" I was excited. I had struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts for a long time and thought this show would be bringing light to those issues. Instead, it triggered my feelings that I had suppressed.

With season two coming out soon, I have made up my mind that I am NEVER watching it, and here is why:

1. This show simplifies suicide as being a result of bullying, sexual assault, etc. when the issue is extremely more complex.

2. It does not effectively address mental illness, which is a major factor in suicide.

3. The American Foundation of Suicide Prevention has guidelines on how to portray suicides in TV shows and movies without causing more suicides.

"13 Reasons Why" disregarded those guidelines by graphically showing Hannah slitting her wrists.

4. It is triggering to those who have tried to commit suicide in the past or that struggle with mental illness.

5. It glorifies suicide.

6. It does not offer healthy coping solutions with trauma and bullying.

The only "solution" offered is suicide, which as mentioned above, is glorified by the show.

7. This show portrays Hannah as dramatic and attention-seeking, which creates the stereotype that people with suicidal thoughts are dramatic and seeking attention.

8. Hannah makes Clay and other people feel guilty for her death, which is inconsiderate and rude and NOT something most people who commit suicide would actually do.

9. This show treats suicide as revenge.

In reality, suicide is the feeling of hopelessness and depression, and it's a personal decision.

10. Hannah blames everyone but herself for her death, but suicide is a choice made by people who commit it.

Yes, sexual assault and bullying can be a factor in suicidal thoughts, but committing suicide is completely in the hands of the individual.

11. Skye justifies self-harm by saying, "It's what you do instead of killing yourself."

12. Hannah's school counselor disregards the clear signs of her being suicidal, which is against the law and not something any professional would do.

13. The show is not realistic.

14. To be honest, I didn't even enjoy the acting.

15. The characters are underdeveloped.

16. "13 Reasons Why" alludes that Clay's love could have saved Hannah, which is also unrealistic.

17. There are unnecessary plot lines that don't even advance the main plot.

18. No one in the show deals with their problems.

They all push them off onto other people (which, by the way, is NOT HEALTHY!!!).

19. There is not at any point in the show encouragement that life after high school is better.

20. I find the show offensive to not only me, but also to everyone who has struggled with suicidal thoughts.

21. The show is gory and violent, and I don't like that kind of thing.

22. By watching the show, you basically get a step-by-step guide on how to commit suicide.

Which, again, is against guidelines set by The American Foundation of Suicide Prevention.

23. The show offers no resources for those who have similar issues to Hannah.

24. It is not healthy for me or anyone else to watch "13 Reasons Why."

25. Not only does the show glorify suicide, but it also glorifies self-harm as an alternative to suicide.

26. Other characters don't help Hannah when she reaches out to them, which could discourage viewers from reaching out.

27. Hannah doesn't leave a tape for her parents, and even though the tapes were mostly bad, I still think the show's writers should have included a goodbye to her parents.

28. It simplifies suicide.

29. The show is tactless, in my opinion.

30. I feel like the show writers did not do any research on the topic of suicide or mental illness, and "13 Reasons Why" suffered because of lack of research.

31. I will not be watching season two mostly because I am bitter about the tastelessness.

And I do not want there to be enough views for them to make a season three and impact even more people in a negative way.

If you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
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I Am Using This Summer To Grow

I will also be able to grow in my own faith as I am helping other children.
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I am spending this summer in Tampa, which is my hometown. It is a lot different this summer because I am not in Fort Myers where all my friends are.

I have noticed that I am feeling more lonely, just because I am not surrounded by the people that I am so used to being around. Through the few years of college, I have started to drift away from friends that I had in high school.

There are only a few people that I still talk to, and keep up with.

I am taking 3 classes this summer and will be teaching faith formation to 7th graders, in June. I am so excited for that experience because it is going to help me grow so much in my faith and as a teacher.

I think about this camp, as an opportunity to grow, and pour into students like I will be doing when I become certified in a few years. I will also be able to grow in my own faith as I am helping other children.

This summer I really want to spend time growing in my faith and relationship with God. During college, it is so easy to read my bible every night and spend time praying. I had so much quiet time when I was there and always was involved with ministries every week.

When I am home it becomes more challenging because I am so busy with life at home. It isn't just me anymore, I am back with my family. I love being home with my family but it is definitely different, after getting used to being on my own at school.

I am taking this summer and using it as a time to grow in my life so that when I get back to college in August, it is easy for me to continue to have a relationship with Christ and be a productive teacher in training.

Cover Image Credit: Taylor Markee

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