To The Girl Who Said I Can't Put 'Spoiled' On My Resume, Take 'Bitter' Off Yours

To The Girl Who Said I Can't Put 'Spoiled' On My Resume, Take 'Bitter' Off Yours

Sure, I can't put being spoiled on my resume... but you can't put being bitter on yours, either.
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Before I start, let me get something straight. I'm not spoiled, but I am well taken care of.

I'm sorry that the fact that my father pays my college tuition in full and wants me to have as much study time as possible "infuriates" you.

So, let me enlighten you, my parents providing for me in college doesn't define my character.

While I'm home during the summer, I work. We have a farm and a family business. I also umpire and work at other local places. So, trust me, I know the meaning of hard work and money just as well as you and the next guy.

You've had a job since you were 16 years old, I've had a job since I was 14 years old. But my "Mommy and Daddy" pay for a majority of the things I do. Especially my needs.

I worked Fridays and Saturday nights, too, but I also had enough free time to go to football games and hang out with my friends while I was in high school.

I must ask you this... why are you upset that kids have parents who give them everything? I'll be honest, when I have kids and a family I'm going to bust my butt to make sure my kids are happy and have everything they need to be successful.

They won't miss out on high school experiences to work some 4-10 job at Subway for their entire high school career. They'll be too busy enjoying the tail end of their childhood, playing sports, participating in the yearbook club, the mathlete club, or whatever it may be that they want to join.

My goal in life is to be as financially stable as possible, so if I want to buy my kids concert tickets, name brand clothes, or give them a few extra dollars for getting good grades... you best believe I am going to.

Kids are allowed to be stressed about things, no matter what it is. Telling someone what they can and cannot be upset about, or measuring the difficulty of their life by what it looks like, isn't fair. Maybe they aren't working an 8-hour shift and waking up at 5 a.m. to get ready for school the next day, but they may be studying as hard as they can for a test, getting a sufficient amount of rest to play in a game the next day (a game that could potentially pay for their college career), or struggling with something else outside of school that you are totally unaware of.

Don't shame me or anyone else because we are well supported by our parents. There is nothing wrong with that what so ever. That's what parents are supposed to do. If it wasn't for the great parenting that I had growing up, especially in my last two years of high school, I wouldn't be who I am today — a successful, hardworking, college attending young woman. I learned to have self-discipline, manners, and respect at a young age... the amount of money that my parents supplied me with had nothing to do with it.

So sure, I cannot put "spoiled" on my resume for previous job experience... but I can say that you can't put being bitter on yours, either.

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You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress

You had him in high school, but I get him for the rest of my life.
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High school seems like the best time of your life when you are in it. You think that all of your friends will be with you until the end, and that you will end up with whoever you are dating your senior year. For very few, that might just be the case. For all others, that is far from true.

You thought that you would marry your boyfriend and you thought that everything would work out how you had always imagined. I don't blame you though. He's great. You wanted everything with him, but you were just not right for him.

I wish I could say that I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but I can't. I can't because he is mine now, and I get to cherish him forever. You didn't do that right, and you were not meant to be together. You will find someone too, but I am happy that you were not the one for him.

Sometimes I have issues with jealousy, and I hate that you got all of the high school stuff with him. You got to go to games and support him. It kills me that I couldn't be there for him because I know I would have actually been there wholeheartedly. I would have done it out of love, not as a popularity appearance.

I hate that you got to go to all of the school dances with him. He got to see you all dressed up and probably told you how great you looked. I'm sure you did look great. Prom dresses were always fun to pick out and so colorful. It was exciting to match colors with your date. I am sure you had fun choosing his matching tux to your dress.

I find myself getting jealous, but then I stop. I am getting to match his tux with our wedding colors. I got to go dress shopping in a sea of white, and he doesn't get to know one detail about that dress yet. He will get to see me walk down the aisle and then every day forever. I get to love him forever.

I try to not get jealous of all of the things you got with him because it is all in the past. You had your time, and now I get the wedding. You got to dress up in high school, but I get to dress up for my wedding with him. He may have put a corsage on your wrist, but he will be putting the wedding ring on my finger.

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I Expected It To Have It All Together By 22 And I'm Still Far From That

What we expected and what reality actually is, are two completely different things...

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Oh our 20s, how we expected them to be so different. We expected to graduate college at 22, have a career by 23, be engaged by 24, married with a house by 25, kids by 26-28, vacationing with the family by 30, and retired by 60. We expected college to be parties and cute boys/girls. Instead, we got late nights of studying and crying after a job that barely pays for our car, food, dorm, and textbooks. We get no social life and if we do our grades suffer for it.

Our 20s were expected to be all fun but all we got were struggles and stress. I mean I don't know about you but I expected, to have it all together and I'm nearly 23 and far from it. I had all the scholarships and great grades, and I still don't have any type of degree.

Reality hits after 18. Most of us don't have the help of mom and dad anymore. We have to find our way and make a path for ourselves. Sometimes our dreams and goals have to be put on hold for that. The 20s isn't fun. It's about discovering who you are, who you want to be, and where you want to go. Some of us serve our country, some become incarcerated, some of us parents, some teachers, others cops, others travel or study abroad, some dead, some ill, other managers, others homeless, some still living home, and some even addicts.

The weird thing about your 20s is everyone is doing something different, but yet everyone is confused and comparing themselves to others. People feel if they're not doing what others are doing, in their age group then they have failed themselves. What people forget is that with life comes obstacles and sacrifice and everyone's life and situations are different. You are where you need to be right now, for you, and I think that's something to remember in your 20s.

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Another thing about your 20's is you're free to think for yourself now. No more having to follow a religion you dislike or hold back from things you love. The world is literally yours to discover and learn from. Possibilities are endless! I think your 20's are the years you create yourself to the best version of you and build the foundation for your future. Just remember, we all build at our own pace.

Signed,

The lost 22-year old that believes in you

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