For a while, I had a big fear of speaking in front of large groups, specifically teenagers who all seemed to have the word judgment etched on their faces. My stomach would drop when hearing the dreaded “participation will count towards your grade.”
I was seen as shy for my lack of enthusiasm in class and it was clear that my anxiety was starting to characterize me. However, senior year of high school turned things around for me. I decided to welcome senioritis and pretty soon I no longer felt like wasting time with my worrying. The following is how to kick ass when facing your next public speaking situation:
1. Acceptance
Okay, so you’ve just been assigned something that you dread. First, take a step back and don’t freak out. You’ve got plenty of time to do that so why start right away? It’s important to accept that you need to get this done because your grade depends on it. Just put in a lot of effort so that what you end up sharing out loud isn’t something that you are ashamed of.
2. Realization
The sad truth is that no one cares much about what you have to say. For example, if it’s an in-class debate, there’s a 99 percent chance you aren’t going to change someone’s view so don’t try to. Talk enough that you get credit but you don’t need to say something that gives the “mind blown” feeling. Also, realize that you are not alone in your hatred for public speaking. Some may not be as outward with their stress and are just better at hiding it than you.
3. Fake It
If you go in and pretend to have confidence, you might actually walk away with some. Just keep your head up and don’t shy away from eye contact. Prove that you’re not afraid of it. Also, try to avoid moving around a lot or playing with your hair, as those are common nervous behaviors. Keep your hands by your side or clasped in front of you.
4. Dress to Impress
Feeling good about yourself can be reflected in your actions/performance. Dressing a little nicer than usual can pump you up to give a good speech in class that day. Look at this public speaking as just an opportunity to show off your stylish new outfit. Also, it shows a professor that you know this assignment is important and you are taking it seriously by dressing up for the occasion.
5. Go Slow
Never rush your words when speaking. It can give off either an “I don’t care” vibe or an “I’m currently tense due to nerves” vibe. So make sure to pace yourself, especially if there’s a time minimum you need to reach. Going slow also allows you to collect your thoughts and not share them in a mumbled fashion.
Public speaking isn't something we can run and hide from. Sometimes you just have to embrace the stress and try to overcome it. Doesn’t it always feel better when you’ve finished something you were worried about?
Also, don’t let one bad presentation discourage you; it doesn’t mean the rest will turn out the same. I hope this advice will help you as it has helped me.
Remember no one is going to remember the presentation you gave in your Evolution class during freshmen year of college. They're most likely bored and not interested in hearing what you think about natural selection or the falsifiability principle.
