5 Things You Know If You Are In A Interracial Relationshio

5 Things You Know If You Are In A Interracial Relationshio

Cultural differences are real
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Interracial relationships are growing more commonplace, and people are much more accepting of them today than in the 1960s. As humanity continues to bridge the gap between various groups and cultures, the result is a beautiful intermingling of people and the emergence of a sub culture of mixed races. If you are in an interracial relationship, then you probably know most of the following to be true.

1. Pictures can be a challenge

Most couples (but mostly the girls) love taking selfies (or “usies”) together either for personal keepsakes or to post on their social media. This seemingly simple task to everyone else can create a very technical issue for interracial couples. Both filters and pictures can be the enemy, especially for couples on the extreme opposite ends of each color spectrum. On very bright days or under bright lights, one person looks washed out by the light, while in subtle or dim lighting, one may be hardly visible. Needless to say, filters are not a huge help; none seems to have a good balance for starkly differing skin tones.

2. The awkward moments when…

Being an interracial couple today is nothing of the tribulation it was back in the 60s when couples were harassed by police and in their own communities and families. However, awkward moments still happen today.

By default, people are more likely to assume two people of the same race are in a relationship than if they are of different races. So, some couples endure awkward moments when someone tries to flirt with their significant other while. One lady on Twitter posted: “When you’re standing next to each other, [and] no one believes you two are dating, so they think it’s okay to hit on your [boyfriend].” Another woman said: “When they ring you up for two separate tickets cause they think y'all aren’t dating.”

3. Cultural differences are real

Other instances of awkwardness can be caused by culture differences. Across cultures, the phrases, native tongue, holidays, food, humor, and mannerisms usually differ, and sometimes it takes the other person a minute to catch on.

Some people of older generations or more orthodox cultures still have a hard time coming to terms with the intermingling of races. So, some couples struggle with a family member that disapproves of their relationship. Dislike may not necessarily be on the basis of race, as there are a gamut of things people can dislike about a relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes the prejudice is blatantly stated.

4. You learn and grow together

The people skills you develop from interacting with those of different cultural backgrounds are invaluable. These interactions do more for you than you may realize. You may find you are better able to socialize and mingle with all types of people now. Your confidence in humanity and “others” increases, as you realize that though quite different, you are both so similarly human and share common goals. You learn a lot just spending time with their family, celebrating their holidays/traditions, or learning certain phrases from their language—not that you can write any of this on a resume or anything, but if you hang around the person’s family enough, then you’re probably well-cultured. Brownie points.

5. You get the best of both worlds

Being in an interracial relationship is the literal embodiment of getting the best of both worlds. You are able to live and experience two cultures simultaneously. If you live together, your living space is probably a unique blend of the two cultures and you enjoy different meal styles. You have a lot to offer each other, and very much enjoy each other’s differences. The cross-culture aspect makes your relationship unique. You experience the world together through different lenses and enjoy the company of your best friend with the added bonus of love!

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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15 Thing Only Early 2000's Kids Will Understand

"Get connected for free, with education connection"

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This is it early 2000's babies, a compilation finally made for you. This list is loaded with things that will make you swoon with nostalgia.

1. Not being accepted by the late 90's kids.

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Contrary to what one may think, late 90's and early 00's kids had the same childhood, but whenever a 00's kid says they remember something on an "only 90's kids will understand" post they are ridiculed.

2. Fortune tellers.

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Every day in elementary school you would whip one of these bad boys out of your desk, and proceed to tell all of your classmates what lifestyle they were going to live and who they were going to marry.

3.Bunnicula

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You could never read this book past 8 o'clock at night out of fear that your beloved pet rabbit would come after you.

4. Silly bands.

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You vividly remember begging your parents to buy you $10 worth of cheap rubber bands that vaguely resembles the shape of an everyday object.

5. Parachutes.

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The joy and excitement that washed over you whenever you saw the gym teacher pull out the huge rainbow parachute. The adrenaline that pumped through your veins whenever your gym teacher tells you the pull the chute under you and sit to make a huge "fort".

6. Putty Erasers

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You always bought one whenever there was a school store.

7. iPod shuffle.

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The smallest, least technological iPpd apple has made, made you the coolest kid at the bus stop.

8. "Education Connection"

You knew EVERY wood to the "Education Connection" commercials. Every. Single.Word.

9. " The Naked Brothers Band"

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The "Naked Brothers Band" had a short run on Nickelodeon and wrote some absolute bangers including, "Crazy Car' and "I Don't Wanna Go To School"

10. Dance Dance Revolution

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This one video game caused so many sibling, friend, and parent rivalries. This is also where you learned all of your super sick dance moves.

11. Tamagotchi

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Going to school with fear of your Tamagotchi dying while you were away was your biggest worry.

12. Gym Scooters

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You, or somebody you know most likely broke or jammed their finger on one of these bad boys, but it was worth it.

13. Scholastic book fairs

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Begging your parents for money to buy a new book, and then actually spending it on pens, pencils, erasers, and posters.

14.Go-Gurt

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Who knew that putting yogurt in a plastic tube made it taste so much better?

15. Slap Bracelets

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Your school probably banned these for being "too dangerous".

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