I have an unpopular opinion I want to share with you: love in this digital age we are living in is unfair.
Here's why:
Because now so much of dating is focused online more so than in real life like generations before ours that gives people a shield of the worst sort. From behind a computer screen or a phone, people feel like they can say whatever they want without the filters of social courtesies to stop them and make them think before speaking.
As you all know I have a disability caused by a stroke. I've done online dating like any other millennial 20-something girl has and this notion of judgmental and unfairness has caught my attention specifically. I have had some pretty rude assumptions made about me by guys who I had talked to for a day or so when I disclosed my disability to them and each time it didn't cease to shock me. Some of the things people have the nerve to say behind that protective shield of technology are astounding I tell you.
Now don't think that I'm saying this just happens to girls like me. It happens to everyone at some point because some people merely exist to find something wrong with others to make them feel better about themselves. The digital age has given people the power to disregard the etiquette taught to them as children because technically they aren't out in public, rather they are behind a screen,
Just because dating has been changing to accommodate the new technology we have does not mean that the rules of etiquette for social interaction should.
I don't want you to think I'm saying everyone you will meet if you decide to try digital or online dating is like that because they're not. There are actually some decent people out there who realize that judging someone based on a single trait or factor isn't the right way to be successful in online dating, rather they know the key to success is giving a chance to the person regardless of their appearances. Those are the people everyone on whatever site needs to keep an eye out for because they come few and far between and that's just sad.
How does the old saying go? Don't judge a book by its cover.
Don't become one of the masses. Be the needle in the haystack that someone is yearning to find
