Dear Unexpecting Mother,

I know you had no intention for this to happen. I know you aren’t prepared or you aren’t ready to be a Mom. I get that you still have a life to live, places to go, and things to see; but so does your baby.

I am a feminist; I believe women can do so much, more than people believe. I am for equal pay, reducing the gender pay gap, a female president, etc. I believe we can do it. I also believe that if a woman doesn’t want to have a baby, she shouldn’t have to. But, my views are a little different than most.

I understand that your body is your body. You are in control of what goes in and comes out of your body. It is your choice. But, you did the act...now, you're pregnant. It’s okay not to want it. It’s okay not to be ready. But, someone is. So many people can’t have children of their own. So many people want to have a family, and they can’t. Think of the blessing you could give them. Think of how grateful they would be. My parents were.

Yes, I’m adopted.

My parents couldn’t have children, and they adopted me. Not a day goes by that my mom isn’t grateful for the blessing my birth mother gave her. Not a day goes by that I’m not thankful to my birth-mother for making the choice to give me up for adoption rather than abortion. The thought that I might not be here; that I might not have my family scares me. My family means so much to me, even more so since I could’ve not had them.

It’s so easy to just decide abortion. You don’t have to see the baby, carry it, deliver it. You don’t have to deal with the criticism, the shame, or the responsibility. I get it.

When it costs $200 dollars to get an abortion in this country and $20,000 to adopt a baby...you can see what the most convenient choice is.

If you decide to get an abortion, it is your right. Your choice. But before you make that decision, I ask you to think of the baby inside you that didn’t ask to be born, didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Think about the family, who wants a baby so bad. Think about me -- a child that is so grateful to have been born rather than aborted. The child who may have been an accident, but feels so loved and cared for.

This is a big decision, one you probably don’t want to have to sit down and contemplate. But, just think of all your options. Think about yourself, think about your baby, and think about the millions of couples that can’t have children. I know you’ll make the choice that is best.

Sincerely,

an Adopted child