Breakups have a wide range of reasons as to why they happen, but each break up has the same result: a broken heart. A breakup at any age is never an easy task to get over. The older you get, the more you begin to worry about your future and who could ever possibly replace the man. Or, in some cases, the boy you were just with. When you are young, going through a break up makes life seem like it has come to a complete end. How could life ever keep going? But, life will keep going and things will get easier as time goes on.
Your boyfriend became your confidence, your best friend, your safe place, the one who was there for everything and was someone you could never imagine yourself without. However, now it is time to start imagining the world where someone new can take over those roles he left voided. That new person will do an even better job than your ex ever did.
Dear Broken Hearted Friend,
Cry until you get it all out. Let all that pain and frustration out. We are here ready to provide the Kleenex’s for you, the shoulder to cry on and even the extra space in our bed to sit with you. Once that is over, no more tears. He is not worth it at this time in your life. People drift and people change. Sometimes that could be drifting together, but in certain scenarios it means drifting apart.
This pain is not going to go away all at once, but one day you will wake up feeling a little bit warmer and happier. Further down the road, you won’t even notice those random facts or spots around the town that would make you break down on the spot. You will stop thinking about what they are doing at that exact moment and will forget their schedule. You won’t notice when he is with another girl on campus or around town, but in order to do so, you need to forgive either yourself and or the person that caused the broken heart in the first place.
When going through life, having girlfriends to fall back on is one of the best things about growing up. Those connections will only grow stronger. At your wedding, you will have the man of your dreams standing next to you, who will not even be on the same level as any of your exes because he will be that amazing, and on the other side of you will be your closest girlfriends, who will have been there through all the tears, broken hearts and excitement. They will be the ones you tell when you first meet your future husband.
Overall, trust in the fact that God has a plan. There is a reason why you have a broken heart right now and in that specific moment. God has a plan to get you to that one specific man that he has picked out for you since before you were even born. So, for now all we can do is pray. Pray for peace. Pray for healing. Pray for guidance. Pray that at the right moment God will bring you face to face with your future husband and that you will be at the right moment in your life to handle it. Most importantly, pray that God is with your future husband and that he has comfort with his own broken heart.
My heart aches with yours and I know it's been a while since you have felt completely happy, but that day will come. The one who broke your heart misses you too; he would be crazy to not miss you. Find comfort within yourself and find out who you are without him. Chances are you are much stronger and more independent without someone holding you back.
For now, before the man of your dreams can put all the pieces of your heart back together, let your girlfriends try to put the little pieces together. Get mad, get sad, be confused and hurt, but find comfort in your friends and in the fact that life is not yet over.
Lorelai Gilmore said it best when it came to break ups, “Get back in your pajamas, go to bed, eat nothing, but gallons of ice cream and tons of pizza.”
The best has yet to come, so enjoy the time with your girlfriends before you do not have much of an opportunity to.
