Dear Reader,
Relationships aren’t made for those who expect fairy-tale stories. Some of us have made this idealistic world in our mind and, when thinking of love, our sense of perception is caught totally off-guard. We begin to form these expectations of our loved ones where we formalize what we want in a significant other. Often, we want compatibility, a sense of purpose, a fresh start, someone to share our days with. In reality, this is not too much to ask for. Everyone should be able to find their happily ever after, but more often our hearts do not match and we end with dwindling spirits. This is called heartbreak friends and we need to realize it’s actually the best thing that’s ever happened to us.
Getting your heart broken shouldn’t reflect a stigma of loneliness and it damned sure shouldn’t make you feel any less of a person. We are all human and in fact we are learning and growing everyday. However, take this moment in time to dust off your shoes, wipe your face and get going with it. Do any of us really have time to drown our sorrows in a fifth of tequila? Whatever caused your last break up, accepting it is all you can do. Trading one vice for the next certainly doesn’t solve any problems and I can assure you heartbreaks for tequila will make you feel worse in the morning.
Honestly thinking that anyone in this world owes you anything is not the frame of mind to have. I understand we take time to form relationships with people and in the end they end up being something we totally never expected. Crying about it doesn’t help your cause, feeling entitled to someone you are not married or legally bonded to may actually be a little selfish on your behalf. Think about it: If someone is telling you that you are not the one for them, who are you to say what they want? Embrace it and don’t let the door hit their ass on the way out. We spend too much time grieving breakups then actually getting ourselves together. We ain't got time to focus our energy on someone else, rather let's focus on ourselves and be the best we can be.
If whoever we were in a relationship with doesn’t care about what we are passionate about or respect us enough to embrace it, they aren’t helping our cause, either. First in this world, we are people. We are all individuals and we each have ambitions, goals, jobs, social life and hobbies. We naturally mesh well with people who have similar interests, or we act open to their lifestyle. If someone cannot do either of the two, they aren’t doing us a favor. They are actually not meant to be for you.
Chin up, this probably isn’t going to matter in 10 years, anyway. Know your self-worth because you have plenty. Getting your heart broken isn’t the end of the world. In fact, it’s a new chapter. Take some time for yourself and live joyfully. Your happy ending is out there somewhere.
